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etherealme · 10-21-2006, 03:53 PM

As a teen you shouldn't be having a sexual relationship if its not what you want.
In your 20's, 30's or older it can sometimes be deemed as odd that you aren't having sex with someone you think of as a romantic interest.Still it is ultimately a persons' choice if they choose not to have sex even if they are in love. A couple of my divorced friends waited almost 3 years before having sex again, even while dating. They had small children and did not want to give the kids a false sense that this guys is going to be here for the long haul. A good relationship doesn't always have to be about sex if the one not getting any is understanding enough.They had fun together without it being all about doing the deed. Rare in this day and age but certainly something she should be damn proud of.

I really hope you stick to your guns on this one. I can't tell you how many girls I know who said they would wait for marriage or an engagement but then slept with the first dude who said I love you. It happens. Circumstances occur that can completely change our ideas as well.

If a guy really cares about you he will respect your decision to wait until you are ready. There are alot of unwanted consequences of pre-marital sex besides just pregnancy and disease. The emotional reprecussions are huge.
If you feel pressured by someone and then give in, in the end you will feel horrible about yourself. Alot of times this is what leads to promiscuity in a girl that had before been relatively sure she wasn't going that route. I've seen it alot.

The majority of my friends even in their 30's say their first time was pressured, and afterwards they felt cheap and basically used. Like they had totally let themselves down. Once they did it wasn't a sacred thing anymore so who cared if they slept around.

Wanting a boyfriend at your age should not automatically mean you are going to end up having sex. Just because everyone else is doing it sure as hell doesn't mean you have to. You be true to you, That is what matters in the end,hon.

10-21-2006, 03:53 PM	#25 (permalink)
etherealme Children of the Korn Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Iowa Age: 34 Posts: 936 Points: 30,855.57 Bank: 14,127.55 Total Points: 44,983.12 Donate	As a teen you shouldn't be having a sexual relationship if its not what you want. In your 20's, 30's or older it can sometimes be deemed as odd that you aren't having sex with someone you think of as a romantic interest.Still it is ultimately a persons' choice if they choose not to have sex even if they are in love. A couple of my divorced friends waited almost 3 years before having sex again, even while dating. They had small children and did not want to give the kids a false sense that this guys is going to be here for the long haul. A good relationship doesn't always have to be about sex if the one not getting any is understanding enough.They had fun together without it being all about doing the deed. Rare in this day and age but certainly something she should be damn proud of. I really hope you stick to your guns on this one. I can't tell you how many girls I know who said they would wait for marriage or an engagement but then slept with the first dude who said I love you. It happens. Circumstances occur that can completely change our ideas as well. If a guy really cares about you he will respect your decision to wait until you are ready. There are alot of unwanted consequences of pre-marital sex besides just pregnancy and disease. The emotional reprecussions are huge. If you feel pressured by someone and then give in, in the end you will feel horrible about yourself. Alot of times this is what leads to promiscuity in a girl that had before been relatively sure she wasn't going that route. I've seen it alot. The majority of my friends even in their 30's say their first time was pressured, and afterwards they felt cheap and basically used. Like they had totally let themselves down. Once they did it wasn't a sacred thing anymore so who cared if they slept around. Wanting a boyfriend at your age should not automatically mean you are going to end up having sex. Just because everyone else is doing it sure as hell doesn't mean you have to. You be true to you, That is what matters in the end,hon. __________________ Since the government gets to use imaginary money to cover its ass, how come I can't use Monopoly money to pay my mortgage?