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Originally Posted by JANE
You'll find a guy EVENTUALLY, lol.
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kind of like panning for gold. you have to sift through a lot of worthess dirt(bags) and a few fools gold types before you find the rignt one.
as for finding the right type: as obvious as it may seem, focusing the majority of your energies on looking in places where the "right" types tend to gravitate is, at least to me, a very major step in finding the right one.
i have no knowledge of your religious convictions/attitudes, but i would certainly suggust that if you are a member of an orginised religion, social events sponsored by it, or outside groups with similar principals, are very good places to start simply for the fact that the folks there are much more likely to share your convictions that the folks you would meet at places like clubs and bars. (nothing against clubs and bars, BTW, fun places if your there for the right reasons)
that and if you have a good idea of what your looking for, trust your instincts. after interacting with someone for a while, you'll have a very good idea of what kind of a person they are, minus any jeykell and hyde tendancies. if they dont feel rignt, dont force yourself to stay just because your afraid of being alone again for awhile. the world is full of lots of people.
as far as after marriage goes,, i do belive you'll find that loving someone and becoming romanically atached without sex is a good thing for two reasons:
1: as said by others here, the sex is sweeter!!! and important as part of your romantic relationship.
2. WHEN the sex drive cools off, and it will, there is still someone there to love and be friends with.
good luck!!!!