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Phoenix Fires · 04-01-2008, 05:52 AM

Firstly, I just need to tell you how brave you are that you've done it! Sometimes it's the hardest thing in the world to tell someone who you really are. Some people think it's a big deal and others... well, your best friend.

Ok, how long did it take you to discover that you're bisexual? I know it's going to be hard but you need to give your friend time to get used to it, nobody can understand it in a couple of days, just like nobody becomes gay in a day. Give her time to get used to the idea, she's going to need space. I know you need to talk to her but just give it a bit of time.

Did you come out to all your friends at once?

About your mum... I have to tell you now that there are a lot of people in the world who think that bisexuality isn't real, both gay and straight, and your mum's reaction wasn't unusual. I told my mum that I thought I was bisexual, and her reaction was to tell me that bisexuality doesn't exist. And this really hurt, because my struggle with that was a big part of my life and she just brushed it aside as a phase. I ended up in tears myself. She also said it's ok to be gay, although she'd be disappointed. So I kind of know how you feel here. If you need someone's shoulder to cry on, please PM me...

I have one piece of advice... how long did you feel you were living a lie, how long did you worry about telling people, and how relieved did you feel to finally get it out in the open despite the consequences? By not telling your mum the real truth, you're just going to keep living the lie, and it's going to keep hurting. Tell her you're bisexual, just kill the lie dead in its tracks and let her get used to it on her own time. It's just my advice though.

There are always going to be people who don't take bisexuality seriously, people who descriminate against it, people who don't understand. But if you keep it to yourself, even after you've come out, you're not helping...

Be straight with people. So to speak

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Phoenix Fires Cheburashka Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: UK Age: 22 Posts: 3,380 Points: 0.87 Bank: 1,149,961.77 Total Points: 1,149,962.63 Donate	Firstly, I just need to tell you how brave you are that you've done it! Sometimes it's the hardest thing in the world to tell someone who you really are. Some people think it's a big deal and others... well, your best friend. Ok, how long did it take you to discover that you're bisexual? I know it's going to be hard but you need to give your friend time to get used to it, nobody can understand it in a couple of days, just like nobody becomes gay in a day. Give her time to get used to the idea, she's going to need space. I know you need to talk to her but just give it a bit of time. Did you come out to all your friends at once? About your mum... I have to tell you now that there are a lot of people in the world who think that bisexuality isn't real, both gay and straight, and your mum's reaction wasn't unusual. I told my mum that I thought I was bisexual, and her reaction was to tell me that bisexuality doesn't exist. And this really hurt, because my struggle with that was a big part of my life and she just brushed it aside as a phase. I ended up in tears myself. She also said it's ok to be gay, although she'd be disappointed. So I kind of know how you feel here. If you need someone's shoulder to cry on, please PM me... I have one piece of advice... how long did you feel you were living a lie, how long did you worry about telling people, and how relieved did you feel to finally get it out in the open despite the consequences? By not telling your mum the real truth, you're just going to keep living the lie, and it's going to keep hurting. Tell her you're bisexual, just kill the lie dead in its tracks and let her get used to it on her own time. It's just my advice though. There are always going to be people who don't take bisexuality seriously, people who descriminate against it, people who don't understand. But if you keep it to yourself, even after you've come out, you're not helping... Be straight with people. So to speak __________________ I might have saved her... I might have found a way to keep her from her fate... I thought that I was strong, but you touch me for a little while and all my fragile strength is gone...