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Old 04-05-2008, 01:57 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by hellothisisme View Post
Ok, how long did it take you to discover that you're bisexual? (i've thought for years, but at first i thought gay, but i spent a month or so letting things unveil and i came to being bi as the conclusion)

Did you come out to all your friends at once?(no, i told them in order of how close i felt to them, to insure trust if i wanted to keep it from the other kids for awhile)

how long did you feel you were living a lie(ummmm, like since i was like 8), how long did you worry about telling people(i havent stopped worrying in years, i've always worried that someone might look through my computer and find the gay teen chat rooms and support groups, or open aim and find the guys on there i talk to, im always scared shitless, but i seem even more scared now, about the future), and how relieved did you feel to finally get it out in the open despite the consequences?(when i told the first person i almost shit myself as it was coming out, but after i felt like a million pounds was lifted off my shoulder, that is until i realized i had about three thousand more to tell)
Can you protect your privacy on your computer so nobody comes across that? On the other hand they will see that you're looking for support, and since you're obviously not getting it from the people in your life that you hoped you would, then it's a logical step to take.

But once everyone knows, the weight will be lifted totally. It's the worrying that's the worst of it all for sure. Because once it's out there, that's when people can deal with it and you won't have to worry about telling anyone else, except of course the people you meet, and since they won't know you, it won't be a big deal

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Originally Posted by the biggest fan
Can I ask a question? Sorry you may think it's stupid, but can't you keep the secret to yourself, specially if you know that everyone will hate you if they know who you really are.
Because its like living a lie, simply put.

You just have to accept that people will react differently, the ones you hope will be fine with it may not be, as you found out, and those who you thought wouldn't take it well could possibly be the people who will take it the best. The fact is is that you don't know how people will react until you tell them.
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