i have anorexia...have for about a year now. i want to recover so bad, but i can't. ive tried so many times. it doesn't work. i don't know what to do anymore. i need help, but i don't know where to find it. im scared. im sick of trying to recover. it doesn't work. anyone have any ideas??

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Hello there!=)

The first step of dealing with a problem is admitting that you have it and the second one is,that you actually want to solve it.You can understand then,that you are in a good path.
What you have to do,is talk to your parents,or someone in family,adult,that you trust and can help you.He/she will come in contact with the appropriate people that will help you deal with anorexia.
If you don't have someone that you trust,you can always look for a hotline in your area on the internet and talk to some people over there,i'm sure they will give you the advice you need to follow.
You have to be strong,and reminding yourself how much you want things to change..Don't give up just because you've tried on your own and haven't succeeded.You just need support from someone.

Unfortunately I don't know many things on the subject,apart from what I told you,so I hope I've helped you a bit..

Good luck in everything!

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I can hear you when you whisper but you can't even hear me screaming.

You need to tell your doctor about it ASAP, so that he/she can determine the best course of action for you. I was lucky, because it just so happened that when I wound up with a new primary physician, she specialized in eating disorders. My doctor actually found out that I had an eating disorder because she knew what to look for.

You definitely already know that you can't survive this on your own, and you can't change things on your own. You may even have to participate in an in- or out-patient program to help you overcome the issues that are triggering your obsession with body-image.

The best advice is to see a doctor (your doctor will most likley refer you to a specialist) and commit yourself to the course of action that they suggest. Good luck, and let us know how things go!

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I think that takes alot of courage, that you can addmit, you really do have
a problem.
That is the first step, a person takes in recovery.
And like it has been said above.....you really need to see your doctor.
There are alot of people, who have been to treatment, and felt it didn't
work, and or help them in anyway at all.
You have to realize, that NOT ALL are the same, and there are alot of
them, that will actually help you, and overcome this problem.
Another thing you should keep in mind, you are NOT alone, there are many
other people in the exact same position as you are.
You should be PROUD of yourself, that you had the courage to come
forward, and take the first step, that you need help.
I don't know you, but I am proud of you, and I wish you all the very best,
to overcome this disease!!
You will be in my thoughts!
<3

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It's good you have admitted you have an eating disorder, and that you need help. That's the first step, so feel proud for having made it.

I have no experience with anorexia, but I know how it feels not to want to eat, I know how food can make you feel sick just thinking about it.
To cut a long story short, I was once extremelly underweight, because I lost my appetite. It just flew out the window and was non existant, so I didn't eat because I simply wasn't hungry.
I knew I was ill but couldn't help myself - until I ended up in hospital with dehydration. That really changed me.
I know it's hard, but if you start off small, you can progress. I used to eat one bite of toast and feel full, and I would mentally congratulate myself. That gave me the motivation to continue.
It's important to still love yourself for who you are, while at the same time recognising you have a problem.
Once you start eating very small ammounts, no matter how bad it makes you feel, and if you keep on loving yourself and congratulating yourself, you should be able to eat more and more as the days and weeks go by.

This worked for me, so I hope it works for you. I wish you all the best in the future.

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there is hope and things do get better, believe in that.
what jane says is correct- you cannot do this alone, she speaks from personal experience and so do i (i watched my sister battle and succeed).
it will not be easy and it will not fast but it will happen.
see your doctor talk to your parents and even some trusted friends you will need their support. people will be introduced into your life with no purpose other then to help you get better and this will be counselling and well providing a diet for you.
thing will seem unrealistic and hard to achieve and there will be things you dont want to do- putting on the weight will be the main one and the hard battle to win.
i have every confidence in you and you have my support.
best of luck and i do hope for the best for you

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Loneliness be over,When will this loneliness be over?

Life will flash before my eyes

So scattered and lost, I want to touch the other side,
And no one thinks they are to blame

thanks for everything. it's just so hard for me to do anything. i hate being around food, i hate thinking about it. I can't stand the thought of eating. every time someone tells me to eat, id rather just die. It's so hard to get over this. I can't do it.....


-brittany-

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I'm no doctor, but i also have some experience with this. not directly, my obsessions and addictions did not involve eating disorders, but i too know what it's like to fight compulsive addiction. What I have to say will very likely reflect what the others who have posted will tell you/have told you to a large degree. this is just my personal spin on this.

First: If you convince yourself that you cant, you probably wont. If you keep telling yourself you can't, you definitly wont. if you convince yourself you can, you probabbly will. keep telling yourself that you can. keep your glass half full, not half empty. you MUST convince yourself that you can, even if it's just baby steps, or you will fail. period.

second: dont try to eat the whole elephant at once. just eat bites. (yes, bad pun) take one step at a time, and focus on the steps, not the whole problem.

third: realise that right now you CANNOT succeed at the point you are at without professional help. you MUST folow the advice of your doctor(s) or you will not succeed. as stated in previous posts, what they may say might not seem realistic at first. you may have to break thier steps into sub steps and work on the sub parts. but you MUST work on it.

fourth. realise that it's not just the part about not eating you have to work on. anorexia usually has underlying mental causes (stress, self image, insecurity, etc) that make you not want to eat. those must be resolved too. and they require professional counciling as well.

fifth: accept the fact that you recovery will NOT be comfortable. if it was going to be comfotable, you would have already done it.

and last, to make all of the above happen, you need to find a source of motivation. everyone has different things that motivate them. some motivation is positive, some is negative. many see a picture of thier family, or a vacation they want to go on, or a concert they want to go to, and concentrate on that when thnigs get uncomfortable. whatever it takes to shift your focus off of the moment and to somthing different.

WOULD YOU???? REALLY?? or are you just saying that as an excuse and a cop out? sorry, if my tone seems a bit harsh, forgive me, i would just hate to see you continue to digress,to the point that others will see the need to intervente in your behalf. because once you get to a certain point, they will. things really do start to suck at that point. being in a hospital room with a feeding tube stuck down your throat, feeling like hell, and having no choice in the matter as to what happens to you is a place you dont want to go to. believe me.

basically, do every positive thing you can to avoid that kind of drastic measure from being forcefully applied to you. outpaitent or short term inpatient then outpaitent help is much better to go through. think of where you could be heading if you can find no other source of motivation.

best of luck, we are here to support you. brainy.

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Oh believe me, I know how hard it can be. I know what you mean when you say you can't stand the thought of eating, I couldn't even stand the smell of food, and thinking about it made me feel sick. But you have to keep telling yourself that you MUST eat, no matter how much you don't want to.
As I said in my last post, I starved myself so much that I ended up in hospital. I hadn't drank for three days, and I hadn't eaten anything in nearly a week. I was so weak I couldn't even stand up because my legs would buckle as they couldn't hold me up.
My periods stopped for about three months, and when that happened, I knew I had to do something, because periods stopping is your bodies way of saying there is something seriously wrong.
You have to eat, I know it is hard, but it does get easier. Start off small, and work up. Think positive, and start loving yourself and appriciating yourself.

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The first thing you need to do is WANT to get better and get over your eating disorder. I'm inclined to believe that you want to since you're talking about it. It's commonly known that if you're deep in the disease and committed to it, you're not willing to share it with anyone, so to me, it seems like you really want help and you really want to get off this terrible path you're heading down.

But you have to convince yourself that you want to get better. If you don't want to get better, then you won't. Your mind has to get in the right place. Remind yourself how unappealing it would be to (as brainy suggested) wind up in a hospital strapped down with a feeding tube stuck in you, with hospital attendees controlling everything about your life for you. That SHOULD sound very unappealing, and it should, at the very least, motivate you to stop this disease before it progresses to that point.

You have to ask for help, you have to make this a priority, and you have to surrender yourself to a form of treatment. You need to do this for yourself to get better. Please get your parents to take you to a doctor, or get you signed up for a treatment center. You really need help and I hope that you want that help for yourself. Please get help. Professionals will help you overcome all of those thoughts that pressure you not to eat... you can get past it all. More importantly, treatment will be able to help your family as well. Remember that they don't know what it feels like and they don't understand what you're going through; they don't know how to deal with it, but professionals can help them learn how to help you also. You need to do this. We all want you to be okay, so PLEASE go see a doctor and get some kind of help.

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