The only thing about revenge, is that two wrongs don't make a right.
But in my case, I had to stand up to an abusive person who is
suppose to love and care for me reguardless of anything.
But all she did was hit me all my life, and thats why I was SO glad,
that I didn't have to be afraid anymore, and feel almost like paralized
or trappped, and or even helpless inside.
I had to take a stand, and Stop all htis abuse myself.
Thats when I stopped taking peoples bullshit, and always started to take
a stand for myself!
I refused to live my life like that anymore, and its sad, especially because
I was only a child at the time.

Like Amy always said, Fear Is Only In Our Minds.
But only us can put a stop to it.

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Standing up for yourself and choosing to free yourself from a bad situation is not revenge.

Sister Spooky, I say this to you: To act upon revenge is unwise and foolish, but to be glad for that revenge, that is what makes your heart black and dead. Only someone that can realize their mistakes, to learn and grow, will be a good soul. If you are happy to rejoice in something so terrible, then you will forever isolate yourself from all those who are good and can bring love and happiness into your life.

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It was actually both.
I was tired of it, so I had ot find a way to get her back for all that she had
done to me.
I did it more like in a revenge way.
She was then scared of me, and I was the one with all the power,
and not the other way anymore.
I could have just moved out, but I had to teach her a lesson first though.
Thats where it was both ways.

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It's disgusting and shameful to take delight in the suffering of someone else, even your enemy. It's even worse to have inflicted that suffering yourself. Feeling a sense of justification from revenge is natural, we're human, we aren't perfect. But revenge is nothing to be promoted, nothing to be glorified, and nothing to be happy over.

Even when it's your enemy.

It takes a good person to overcome the feelings of hate and bitterness toward one's enemies, but I like to believe we all have the capability of doing so and that we all WANT to do so. Forgiveness is sometimes hard, but necessary.

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I agree.

I am not in the least, proud of doing what I did.
But, at the time, I felt it had, and was the only way.
I was young, and the only one who had to take on all this shit,
was me, and never ever my brothers.
She new better then to ever touch them, because she new she
would never stand a chance against them.
I was the only one who could never fight back, and she always used that
against me....so I was always the target.
I have a ahrd time to ever for give, and forget, especially when it comes
to laying a hand on a child, and I went through that since the day I was adopted.
This may be wrong, but I don't have any regrets of doing what I did,
because it stopped all the abuse.

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Like I suspected, you've experienced a different situation. Sometimes we do what we have to for the greater good; there's no shame in such a thing.

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There's no revenge so complete as forgiveness.

Yeah I forgave her, WOOPITY DO...how does that even BEGIN to touch the pain that she caused me? BFD is what I say! I'm not a mean or vindictive person, I have hurt a few people along the way but I have always apologized. Forgiveness does not teach anyone anything. I will never say I'm sorry to one person inparticular though, she screwed me and hurt me beyond words and although I pray for her, I most certainly do not forgive her. If that means she wins then so be it, but I'll fight the battle every day to come out on top.

~Monica

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Um, forgiveness is a lesson you teach YOURSELF. Sometimes people hurt us, but revenge is not the way to "teach them a lesson" or put them in their place. You can only make yourself into a better person, and you should work on being the best person that you can be. That involves knowing when to forgive someone and move on and away from a bad situation.

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Totally agreed. To forgive is divine in itself. It is empowering to rise above it.

You are taking a stand that means you will get past it, because you have accepted, dealt with and forgiven the circumstances. We like to wallow in drama, but it is not healthy or helpful. Let go and move forward.

To move away from something that caused us pain and heartache, just one of the many lesssons we are learning in this journey called life, rewards us with the freedom to stop repeating the same mistakes or situations.

Revenge is a very negative response to being hurt. Being able to choose another way of getting past our problems is imperative if we are to grow.

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Since the government gets to use imaginary money to cover its ass, how come I can't use Monopoly money to pay my mortgage?

^^^ That is what I'm still learning.
I don't know why, but it is so very hard to let go, and get past
a bad situation.
Sometimes I wonder if its because, of not having any closure.
Sure, for what I did I ended things, so they would never happen again.
This isn't really a thing, that i let it control my life, just when its brought
up, I have so much anger towards it, and as hard as I try, I just can't
release all of that.
This is why I am seeking therapy. Hopefully it will teach me, and help me
let go of all that negative energy.

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