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the biggest fan · 04-05-2008, 11:22 AM

Can I ask a question? Sorry you may think it's stupid, but can't you keep the secret to yourself, specially if you know that everyone will hate you if they know who you really are.

I've never experienced it, but I know that my best friend did, she told everyone she that she's gay, and she was smiling while she was telling me! She said I don't give a f**k (her words not mine) about what people going to say about me, if they like me then I'll be thrilled but if they don't they can get out of my life, she also said those words to me

I told her I'm happy for you, its good to know who you really are.

Shivercide · 04-05-2008, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by the biggest fan

Can I ask a question? Sorry you may think it's stupid, but can't you keep the secret to yourself, specially if you know that everyone will hate you if they know who you really are.

Someone should never have to feel like they need to keep a "secret" of something that's a big part of who they are simply because people may not like it. I'd say that anyone who would actually hate or despise someone else for coming out about their sexuality isn't even worth it to be in their life, anyway.

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I've never experienced it, but I know that my best friend did, she told everyone she that she's gay, and she was smiling while she was telling me! She said I don't give a f**k (her words not mine) about what people going to say about me, if they like me then I'll be thrilled but if they don't they can get out of my life, she also said those words to me

I told her I'm happy for you, its good to know who you really are.

I love this attitude a lot more.

Sweet Tigger · 04-05-2008, 01:00 PM

I think the most important thing.....Is to execpt a person for
who they are, and Not what they are.
To me, it never really made a difference even when I was alot younger.
We're all the same inside, and being gay, is just a preference.
To me, as long as they have a good heart, and personality, and
attitude, that is all that matters to me.
We are all equal, humans, and all have feelings, and I would never want
to hurt someone intensionaly.
95% of all my guy friends are all gay, and I just love them.
I actually, find them to be better friends then most people I have
met.
If a person meets a another person who is gay, I have never found it
to ever be a threat, they are still the same inside, and That is ALL that
matters!!
I wish that one day, people would soon realize that!

Phoenix Fires · 04-05-2008, 01:57 PM

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Originally Posted by hellothisisme

Ok, how long did it take you to discover that you're bisexual? (i've thought for years, but at first i thought gay, but i spent a month or so letting things unveil and i came to being bi as the conclusion)

Did you come out to all your friends at once?(no, i told them in order of how close i felt to them, to insure trust if i wanted to keep it from the other kids for awhile)

how long did you feel you were living a lie(ummmm, like since i was like 8), how long did you worry about telling people(i havent stopped worrying in years, i've always worried that someone might look through my computer and find the gay teen chat rooms and support groups, or open aim and find the guys on there i talk to, im always scared shitless, but i seem even more scared now, about the future), and how relieved did you feel to finally get it out in the open despite the consequences?(when i told the first person i almost shit myself as it was coming out, but after i felt like a million pounds was lifted off my shoulder, that is until i realized i had about three thousand more to tell)

Can you protect your privacy on your computer so nobody comes across that? On the other hand they will see that you're looking for support, and since you're obviously not getting it from the people in your life that you hoped you would, then it's a logical step to take.

But once everyone knows, the weight will be lifted totally. It's the worrying that's the worst of it all for sure. Because once it's out there, that's when people can deal with it and you won't have to worry about telling anyone else, except of course the people you meet, and since they won't know you, it won't be a big deal

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Originally Posted by the biggest fan

Can I ask a question? Sorry you may think it's stupid, but can't you keep the secret to yourself, specially if you know that everyone will hate you if they know who you really are.

Because its like living a lie, simply put.

You just have to accept that people will react differently, the ones you hope will be fine with it may not be, as you found out, and those who you thought wouldn't take it well could possibly be the people who will take it the best. The fact is is that you don't know how people will react until you tell them.

hellothisisme · 04-20-2008, 01:25 PM

I Did It, Two Weeks Ago. It Didnt Go Well, My Mom Said No, My Dad Said Never, And We Got Into This Gigantor Fight. In The End, I Couldnt Take The Hate, So I Attempted Suicide At 11. I Almost Succeeded. I Was Taken To The E.r. The Next Morning When I Started Having The Side Effects To The Pills I Chugged. I Ended Up In A Inpatient Psychiatric Unit For Two Weeks, And Just Got Out On Thursday. It Helped My Depression A Bit, But It Didnt Help My Parents Accept Me, I Just Yelled At For Having Myself Admitted To A "looney Bin".

Jane · 04-20-2008, 01:55 PM

Thanks for updating us, but I'm sorry to hear that things didn't go well. I think your family needs to be involved with you in some form of counselling so they can learn to talk to you about this and at least learn to accept who you are; it would also help you be able to deal with the tension in a healthier manner. I hope you're going to, or can, get some kind of family/individual therapy set up.

neckcracker · 04-21-2008, 11:45 AM

Sorry if I sound rude at first but So what? its just your sexual preference people need to wake up and realize that sexual, preference doesn't dictate who you are as a person its just plain old sex and as far as I know sex doesn't determine whether or not your a good person nore does it determine your personality! if your best friend doesn't answer your calls or call you back well its her loss at least now you know the truth.

Jane · 04-22-2008, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by neckcracker

Sorry if I sound rude at first but So what?

You need to read the thread before posting, that way you can avoid being so insensitive. Some people would have a hard time if they were completely rejected by their family and closest friends over their sexuality. It's more than a "so what" situation. Relationships are important to us and they are what give us meaning in our lives. If we have strong, happy relationships, we will lead happier, more fulfilling lives. So yeah, if your family and friends turn their backs on you, it kind of IS a big deal.

Invisible Alice · 04-29-2008, 03:48 PM

I know it's hard to convince yourself sometimes but you have to try to be happy with who you really are.
I've never been faced with a problem like this before but there are loads of people out there who will support you!
Don't give up with yourself just because others react to you in a bizzare way. They will come round in the end. They probalby just need time to accept it.

Shape · 04-29-2008, 10:27 PM

Wow. 11 y/o and gay?

Aren't children still in the "cootie" stage at that point?

04-05-2008, 11:22 AM	#11 (permalink)
the biggest fan Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Saudi Arabia Age: 19 Posts: 77 Points: 5,128.33 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 5,128.33 Donate	Can I ask a question? Sorry you may think it's stupid, but can't you keep the secret to yourself, specially if you know that everyone will hate you if they know who you really are. I've never experienced it, but I know that my best friend did, she told everyone she that she's gay, and she was smiling while she was telling me! She said I don't give a f**k (her words not mine) about what people going to say about me, if they like me then I'll be thrilled but if they don't they can get out of my life, she also said those words to me I told her I'm happy for you, its good to know who you really are. __________________ DON'T JUDGE AMY.

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Sweet Tigger Miss Happy-Go-Lucky Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Over The Rainbow Age: 31 Posts: 1,906 Points: 10,693.41 Bank: 41,515.84 Total Points: 52,209.25 Donate	I think the most important thing.....Is to execpt a person for who they are, and Not what they are. To me, it never really made a difference even when I was alot younger. We're all the same inside, and being gay, is just a preference. To me, as long as they have a good heart, and personality, and attitude, that is all that matters to me. We are all equal, humans, and all have feelings, and I would never want to hurt someone intensionaly. 95% of all my guy friends are all gay, and I just love them. I actually, find them to be better friends then most people I have met. If a person meets a another person who is gay, I have never found it to ever be a threat, they are still the same inside, and That is ALL that matters!! I wish that one day, people would soon realize that! __________________ Always Believe In Your Self!!!

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hellothisisme n00blet Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: on this little planet some people call earth.... Posts: 19 Points: 3,984.78 Bank: 274.56 Total Points: 4,259.34 Donate	I Came Out To My Fam I Did It, Two Weeks Ago. It Didnt Go Well, My Mom Said No, My Dad Said Never, And We Got Into This Gigantor Fight. In The End, I Couldnt Take The Hate, So I Attempted Suicide At 11. I Almost Succeeded. I Was Taken To The E.r. The Next Morning When I Started Having The Side Effects To The Pills I Chugged. I Ended Up In A Inpatient Psychiatric Unit For Two Weeks, And Just Got Out On Thursday. It Helped My Depression A Bit, But It Didnt Help My Parents Accept Me, I Just Yelled At For Having Myself Admitted To A "looney Bin". __________________ adviceforthestupid.freeforums.org, check it out man! register to join the awesome wonder that is AFTS!!!!

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Jane seimei no kyozetsu Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ohio Age: 20 Posts: 2,305 Points: 45.08 Bank: 1,650.02 Total Points: 1,695.10 Donate	Thanks for updating us, but I'm sorry to hear that things didn't go well. I think your family needs to be involved with you in some form of counselling so they can learn to talk to you about this and at least learn to accept who you are; it would also help you be able to deal with the tension in a healthier manner. I hope you're going to, or can, get some kind of family/individual therapy set up. __________________ Jane

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04-21-2008, 11:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
neckcracker n00blet Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 8 Points: 416.65 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 416.65 Donate	Sorry if I sound rude at first but So what? its just your sexual preference people need to wake up and realize that sexual, preference doesn't dictate who you are as a person its just plain old sex and as far as I know sex doesn't determine whether or not your a good person nore does it determine your personality! if your best friend doesn't answer your calls or call you back well its her loss at least now you know the truth.

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Invisible Alice n00blet Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: In the sky Posts: 6 Points: 1,273.28 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 1,273.28 Donate	I know it's hard to convince yourself sometimes but you have to try to be happy with who you really are. I've never been faced with a problem like this before but there are loads of people out there who will support you! Don't give up with yourself just because others react to you in a bizzare way. They will come round in the end. They probalby just need time to accept it.

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Shape HAY WHUT? Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: San Jose, California Age: 25 Posts: 4,415 Points: 16,027.64 Bank: 130,228.50 Total Points: 146,256.13 Donate	Wow. 11 y/o and gay? Aren't children still in the "cootie" stage at that point?

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