This has been bugging me for some time and I think it's time for me to open up about this matter.
I'm really insecure. :(
I don't know what to do... and I have such a low self-estime. I just keep thinking that I'm no good and that I'm only here to cause problems.. I feel insecure about everything and nothing...
I'm insecure about my friends... if they really are my friends... I feel insecure about myself, the way I look...everything..
Sometimes my mon and sister are always telling me to act more happy, smile more, be a little crazy... but I feel so bad doing that, always thinking about the image that I'm going to give to other people, what they're thinking about me..
I'm such a quiet, reserved person and really nervous. Some of my friends... they think I'm weird because I don't smile a lot, because I don't look like I'm happy or something. But I am. I guess I don't show it that often...

I feel like everyone is trying to make me the person that they want to see and I'm not. :(

I know that this may sound like a really stupid problem compared to others that are posted on this board.. but I just need some tips on how to gain more confidence.. That's all I ask.


Thanks in advance. <3

maybe people can say that you're problem is nothing but I know it's huge to you.that's what everybody do,they increase their problem.and I guess it's hard for you to talk about it.don't think that you're no good 'cause that's just not true,you're not less worth than everybody else.stop worrying about what others think,who cares,just do what it feels right to you.I know that you may think that everybody's is looking at you but they're not,they are to busy with their problems so just try to let go.be yourself,and just express your feelings.don't keep it all inside of you.I know I'm not of some help but I just wanted to say something and make you feel a little bit better.

I feel like everyone is trying to make me the person that they want to see and I'm not.

ut I feel so bad doing that, always thinking about the image that I'm going to give to other people, what they're thinking about me..

Sounds like you're WAY too afraid of what other people think of you or how they look at you. Sounds like you arent even you, at this point. And you've projected that to others saying that "everyone is trying to make me" or whatever- but it sounds like you're just really afraid of what people think or see of you.

And that needs to stop. You cant be worried what others think of you or how they see you all the time.

You are alowing yourself to be infloenced by other people. You are thinking too much in what other people may think. But who gives a shit really? Do what the hell you want. The more original and yourself you are the more people will respect and like you. Well i would anyway.

People may think your weird cause you don't smile alot, but people think i am weird cause i laugh alot. So really you can't win. And would you rather not be weird? I love 'weird' people, they are the people you have the most fun with. Fucking awesome people. Don't let people bring you down.

I was always insecure, thinking my friends were going to ditch me, hating how i looked and what not. But then i just found confidence, i don't know how really, i just started not caring.

You will get over it, just don't care about other peoples oppinions of you so much. You will find life alot more fun that way. But i know how you feel, i even had counciling about my insecure ways. Just don't let it get as bad as I did
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Well, you should not depend on what the others think or say, you don't need to pretend that you're happy or whatever...just be yourself and know there are always people who love you as you are. There is everything good about every person, I'm sure there are much things that are good about you, you should not be too critical to yourself. But the main is to respect and believe in yourself.

I'm the same, and i get people telling me to cheer up and everything, but what you really should do is forget about it...i mean we only have one life don't we?? so just don't live it feeling insecure, everyone's feeling insecure just some people can hide it, which is alot easier said than done, but try if ur feeling low think about something funny and try and have a laugh...it works trust me :)

i'm passing for the same...:o i feel so insecure about the way i am and the way i look and for my height,i'm so tall,(well that's what i think duh!).

And what i do to avoid it is not to depend on what the others think or say about me....i just try not to worry that much about "Everything",and trust me,this really works.;)

Hope that helped.
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I'm such a quiet, reserved person and really nervous. Some of my friends... they think I'm weird because I don't smile a lot, because I don't look like I'm happy or something. But I am. I guess I don't show it that often...

Well, I used to be the same way, especially around people I didn't know well. Very quiet, made worse when people would bring up the fact that I was so quiet. I'm still not the most talkative person, but what has changed is that I no longer care as much whether people think I'm weird or not.

Trust me, you're not alone. I think everyone, particularly around our age, has problems with self esteem at some point. If you are a serious person, that's fine, just remember not to take things so seriously that you make yourself miserable. Be willing to laugh at yourself now and again. Most importantly, believe in yourself, no matter how cliche it sounds. ;) Things will get better. <3

Thank you so much for your kind words. They've been a great help! :)

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I'm tired of this...my mom's always pushing me down...I can't take this... :( :(
When I'm starting to feel better about myself.. there she goes again..

I'll be honest with you...as much as I deny it every single day, I am extremely insecure. I feel as if I have no talent, I am no good. I am ugly and fat as well. I've felt this way for years,but I just dont know how to pass it. Someone told me I need to 'talk' with myself or whatever the hell,but I just.. dont get it. People have told me how pretty I am,but it doesnt make a difference. I have hardly any friends,yet I constantly try to be nice,kind, and always listen to other people. But no one will listen to me. So, I can definatly relate to you. I think I may know what caused mine, but letting it go is the hardest part. Youre definatly not alone in this. I believe its a gradual thing, but I think it can be passed. I'm working on mine..but I just feel so emotionally weak. Try to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. It may help quite a bit.
-Jessica

I'm exactly like you are.. you just described me. I can't stand to look at myself sometimes. Just like me, you need to work on not focusing on what other want you to be.. it doesn't matter what they think no matter how much you think it does at the time.. and don't think you are alone because, as I said, you're not. Some people say I'm easily amused and at this point I couldn't care less.. I like to laugh and make people laugh, who the fuck cares? I don't anymore and that's a step.. just learn to let go of what others think. I know it's tough at first but everyone has to start somewhere:). If you need someone to talk to.. I'm here;).

I'm the same and people always say to me that i have to smile more and they try to change me. but i'm telling to myself that i smile whenever i want and i don't have to "hide behind a smile" as Amy says.
i'm trying not to care about what people think about me. if i'm weird, they should accept me as i am or go f*ckin themselves.

People think I'm a bit loopy, thankfully I have like 3 real, true friends that no matter what I do they will love me for who I am.
I am a bit loopy though. I talk to myself a lot. And I'm pretty slow but I've learned to accept myself somewhat.

But I don't like the way I look. Eeew. I'm gross looking.

Thanks everyone for your words. I've done a lot of thinking these last few days and truth is, I'm feeling better now.
Thank you so much for everything. You pwn!

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That's good you are feeling better.. keep it up:).

you know yourself the best, if you hear someone suggesting something and you go "wow, they are way off..." then they are way off. it should not get to you at all because you know better. it's just something you need to think about. ask yourself, am i happy with who i am? i believe that you should never change youself to please people. you shoud only consider changing yourself when you tell yourself that you should.

everyone is insecure about something. if they say they're not then they are lying. we're all human. life has it's ups and downs, u can't smile all the time, u can't cry all the time. just go with the flow and don't worry too much.

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For the most part of my life i've hated everything about myself. No one knew because i hid it by acting super confident when really i was the most insecure person. i still am in a lot of ways. I think the biggest thing to help me was to learn to deal with it and not care about anything just because someone said i should. i wasn't happy about hte way i looked so i changed my apperance around a little and went on a diet. I had no confidence in my own voice or my music so I began to share it. Sing at every oppertunity and slowly i've begun to realize that i'm not terrible. i have a great talent. So i'd say the best thing for you to do is try to find something that makes you happy. For me it was changing some things, my music, and my best friend.
Hope that helps you.

sandra