Since this forum is geared mainly towards problems and rough times we are having, I thought it'd be nice to get insight on how to feel better in general. Sometimes just hearing concepts and thoughts you didn't think of before are worth a shot. And usually, they're more productive than you would have guessed.

So, if you have any suggestions on how to cheer up / have a better outlook on life or problems, post 'em here, and help a fellow evboarder smile a little wider!



Here are my personal suggestions (mostly my insight on problems):

First of all, realize that nothing is the end of the world. Everything that happens has purpose. And though perhaps pain is the first emotion provided, there is deeper meaning that will be seen further down the road.

Patience. You've got to be patient. Things don't work out in a day, and take everything one step at a time. Life is very much a hidden prism, hiding her many sides in the depths. It takes time to learn all of those sides to that prism. And when you do, you realize how beautiful prisms are.

You are human. No matter what you do, you will be human. You are here to make mistakes, but on the same hand, you are here to fix them and ultimately, learn from them. Even if you are 100% to blame, you had a reason to do whatever you did at the time. At least you realized what you did was wrong, now fix it. If you give all you've got to fix it, you can't keep beating yourself up. You did the most you can to fix a mistake you made. Realize, fix, move on. That's life.

Look out for yourself, believe in yourself. You alone are capable of spinning your dreams, whims, and life into full-blown action. Don't be afraid to do so. You aren't being selfish, you're taking care of yourself and living the life you want to live, and who can blame you for that?

I'd like to add some advice that my mom always gives me when I'm down. She says "Things will always get better" and she is always right.



Great idea Chelle!

Just chill. Don't take any phone calls, turn off the television, sit back and relax. Tension makes everything worse. Whatever you do to unwind, do it. Take a shower, being clean gives a new outlook on life, a "fresh" perspective. Listen to your favorite song on the radio in the car at the loudest volume you can handle, and take your agression out on the windows, with your voice! Write it down. Talk to someone you trust.

deb

I can go on forever, but shouldn't.

Sometimes, i stick my head in the freezer and just breathe cold air from the icebox. Mmm... Thats like chocolate to me. I just stop and just breathe...That makes everything good for me.

But for normal people...

Think of the worst possible situation that could come outta the bad situation you're in. (it might be sad at first to think of this). But then, think how fortunate it is that the situation ISNT like that.

Thats what i do, anyway. That might not work for everyone and ALL problems.
IE:
"My car broke down. I cant get to work."
Think: "Good thing it isnt raining" or "At least it didnt break down in the freeway", etc.

Count your blessings.

I'd like to add some advice that my mom always gives me when I'm down. She says "Things will always get better" and she is always right.



Great idea Chelle!
I agree! Whenever something bad happens (excuse my grade 2 level of vocabulary, I'm sleepy :p) I'd always look forward to the next day, which would almost always turn out better. Michelle's absolutely right in saying nothing's the end of the world. No matter how grim things may be, there's always hope for the future. :)

for all the emo kids:

just accept the fact that you'll probably be emo until you're around 20 or so, do some drugs and stop crying about everything. :cool:

Oooh child, things are gonna get easier....oooh child things'll get brighter....shit, that's 2 times older than a lot of you.

do some drugs and stop crying about everything. :cool:
Oooooookay.. I'm guessing that's meant to be sarcastic. But who knows, the next 13 year old kid that just broke up with her boyfriend might just take your advice. Sarcasm's not always easy to catch online, especially if it's a high school freshman who just had her heart broken or something. Not meant to offend to any high school freshmen, but we've all made our share of mistakes at that age.

Maybe you'll all think I'm paranoid, but I've seen this happen to this person I know. Sometimes people can take the stupidest of advice, even when it's obvious sarcasm.

Think long and hard about whether you are really in "love" or not, particularly if you're younger. Physical affection alone does not mean you are in "love" with someone. You may like them a lot, but that's not the same thing. I like my friends a lot, but I'm not in love with any of them.

I say this, because I've heard a lot of kids (I feel old :p ) here and outside the Evboard carry on about love when they don't know what they're on about.

This is what I'm talking about; "Omg i love him/her for ever and ever we'll never break up omg i love him so", then the relationship ends after a very short period of time. Armaggedon is nowhere near as painful as this breakup, which comes as a complete surprise to the two people involved (okay, slight exaggeration). A short time late, both of them acting exactly the same way with someone else whom they've never met or noticed before, but they say they're in love with because 'theyre really hot! and i love them for ever blah blah"

People, that is not love! If you can get over someone that fast with barely a hint of emotional pain, then you weren't in love in the first place. You may have been people who enjoyed each other's company and screwing your brains out, but you weren't in love.

Sorry to go off on a little rant there.

Think long and hard about whether you are really in "love" or not, particularly if you're younger. Physical affection alone does not mean you are in "love" with someone. You may like them a lot, but that's not the same thing. I like my friends a lot, but I'm not in love with any of them.

I say this, because I've heard a lot of kids (I feel old :p ) here and outside the Evboard carry on about love when they don't know what they're on about.

This is what I'm talking about; "Omg i love him/her for ever and ever we'll never break up omg i love him so", then the relationship ends after a very short period of time. Armaggedon is nowhere near as painful as this breakup, which comes as a complete surprise to the two people involved (okay, slight exaggeration). A short time late, both of them acting exactly the same way with someone else whom they've never met or noticed before, but they say they're in love with because 'theyre really hot! and i love them for ever blah blah"

People, that is not love! If you can get over someone that fast with barely a hint of emotional pain, then you weren't in love in the first place. You may have been people who enjoyed each other's company and screwing your brains out, but you weren't in love.

Sorry to go off on a little rant there.
Oh man, you pulled the words right out of my mouth!!

When me and my ex-gf were dating, she was like telling me she loved me right off the bat, and I was like "woah, a little soon, no?" Of course I didn't say it out loud, and I said that I loved her too, even though it felt really weird saying that. I didn't know her at all before going out with her.

Anyways, I totally agree that infatuation is easily mistaken for love. I really hate the person that started the whole "love at first sight" shit, that's now like the standard story of every romance novel or movie. There's no such thing as love at first sight! If you believe in it, then you're only falling in love with someone's looks, and not the actual person. Underneath a beautiful exterior can be the most vile and disgust person ever. Likewise, not every "good guy" (for lack of a better term) is hot and great looking.

You have to completely know someone inside out to actually love him or her. Love isn't abuot loving someone's looks, or parts of someone (think dirty, but yea, it's reality). And there is no such thing as a "perfect couple". There's always going to be some things that need to be worked out in relationships, and there's always gonna be some flaw about your partner that you'll have to accept. Kissing and forgetting about a problem is just gonna bite you in the ass, that is if the relationship even lasts that long. To love someone isn't just about loving the good things about someone, but also accepting his/her flaws, and working out problems and differences between you and your bf/gf. And trust me, accepting someone's faults is something waaaaaaay harder in reality than it sounds like on a message board, but it's a big part of being in love.

And I'll shut up now. :p

Nice thread Michelle :)

Things will always be better (they will.. always always)

God squezzes but does not choke.

We get what we can handle, nothing more, nothing less.


That are the things I think when everything sucks.

do some drugs and stop crying about everything. :cool:

Defintely do not do that, I did, and it fucked me up worse OK!
And as for advice.... Things get worse before they get better, but like Dorothy sang about somewhere over the frickin rainbow or something... there is brighter places, you just gotta find them, and learn to deal differently with bad things in life. Turn something bad into something you can get positive out of it.... and never ever give up hope no matter what!
And... don't be afraid to ask for help! Love to all xx :D

And... don't be afraid to ask for help! Love to all xx :D



That's definitely a good peice of advice. Just find somebody you really trust, an adult, parents, teacher, friend...anybody, and just go ask for help. If you really can't ask anyone, then phone a helpline anonymously. I'm sure you can do that. Often people will resort to cutting or self-harm or something, instead of seeking help. DON'T DO THAT. It will only make things worse, and it's not healthy. So basically, what Flutterby said, don't be afraid to ask for help. I know people may think they can deal with stuff on their own, but if it's really that serious talk to someone.

"What doesnt kill you can only make you stronger..."

Oh and Nemo I agree...try to think of the positive side of things rather than the negatives. PMA=Positive Mental Attitude!!!

Great thread btw

its a good tread, but its all so easy to say...anyway i'm sure this might help a lot...

there is so much before, at the moment i only can remeber to say sleep a night over it, or maybe a few weeks/days/years, and then it goes better!

*Singing* Dance to the music!!.. Don't give up. You can make things change, even if other people interfere.

eat Chocolate :D , thats the best , their is a chemical in it , that goes to your brain and makes you feel relaxed and happy.

Or sit alone , with no body else in the room , with music off or turned down low and think , or relax and just turn your music right up.
Its helped alot of people i know

Have a cookie. Enjoy the peace a cookie can bring ya.

and if you can't eat a cookie because of Atkins, Diabetes, or because you're a vegetarian who can't eat eggs... then have a carrot.

Oooooookay.. I'm guessing that's meant to be sarcastic. But who knows, the next 13 year old kid that just broke up with her boyfriend might just take your advice. Sarcasm's not always easy to catch online, especially if it's a high school freshman who just had her heart broken or something. Not meant to offend to any high school freshmen, but we've all made our share of mistakes at that age.

Maybe you'll all think I'm paranoid, but I've seen this happen to this person I know. Sometimes people can take the stupidest of advice, even when it's obvious sarcasm.


If they're too emo to realize that that was sarcasm, then they should seek the advice of a professional, not a message board. (at least not this one). :cool:

I've quoted this before but it's good advice so here goes again: Rick Nielson (Cheap Trick guitarist) says "Life's too short to play a crappy guitar!"

So what are still dragging that crappy guitar around for? Drop it, leave it. Start looking for a better one!

I think you get the metaphore.

im sorry, it might sound stupid (well im french so i dont really know all these words though i lived in the U.S for 4 yrs.) but what does emo mean? :confused:

If they're too emo to realize that that was sarcasm, then they should seek the advice of a professional, not a message board. (at least not this one). :cool:


Um, no, I'm afraid Fweddie is right. Even HE wasn't completely sure you were being sarcastic. You can't hear a person's tone of voice over the internet, so you should at least say you were just kidding or something.

~Carrie~

isn't emo like kinda punk but kinda emotional?? at least that is what i heard..lol!!!

~ashley~

im sorry, it might sound stupid (well im french so i dont really know all these words though i lived in the U.S for 4 yrs.) but what does emo mean? :confused:


it's an abbreviation of the word "emotional," but it is generally used to refer to the type of rampant, hormone driven over-emotional state of confusion and despair that most teenagers go through. Current teenagers believe that they are the only ones who have ever felt this way and they often refuse to accept the advice of those who have been through it in the past when they were teenagers.)

Examples: They are so emo. (Translation: They are teenagers or pre-teens)

The word is also used to refer to a genre of music that focuses on such feelings and is marketed towards people who are experiencing such feelings.

Example: That band is so emo (Translation: Their music is characterized by teenage angst, power chords and usually some crying or desperate screams for help and or attention. Themes often include lost or unrequited love, and problems with their parents.)

It can also be used as an insulting or derogatory remark by people who are easily annoyed by overly emotional people who like to cry alot.

Example: Stop bieng so emo! (Translation: Grow the fuck up, stop whining and deal with life and its problems.)

Hope that clears it up for you. :cool:

Even when things seem that they may never get better, they will. You'll never know if you don't wait around to find out, and things take time to heal. Sometimes lots of time.

There is always someone that has things worse off than you - there is always something to be grateful for.

Life is a beautiful gift, and very short. That in its own, is something to be grateful for.

God squezzes but does not choke.

We get what we can handle, nothing more, nothing less.

Once again Euge has really hit the nail in the head! :D I'm really starting to love you :D :D :D You read my mind. I remember when I was this horrible camp when I was about 13, it's a thing we have to go through in Finland, it's called something like confirmation camp and it sucked major ass. I was never popular but in there I was hated, people made fun of me, none of the adults would even try and help me, the boys sent nasty notes to me and actually threatened to drown me :( I remember I just kept thinking "I won't be given things I can't handle" over and over again and somehow I made it out alive.

The advice I have is to find something stupid or funny in shitty things that happen. Few years back, I was really in love with this guy, he was just everything I ever wanted and I thought I'd never live when he started backing out of the relationship. Well, anyway, on the last night we spent together, we'd both been drinking a lot and he left my friend's apartment where we'd been and as we were standing at the door, the love of my life (or that's what I thought at the time) saying goodbye to me for good, I farted. I never fart. But then I did. It was awful but many times I've laughed at that and it kind of brought me back to reality. Life will move on. So keep on farting! :D

I seriously don't fart, though. Very rarely and only in the bathroom. I was just drunk then.

Um, no, I'm afraid Fweddie is right. Even HE wasn't completely sure you were being sarcastic. You can't hear a person's tone of voice over the internet, so you should at least say you were just kidding or something.

~Carrie~


Who the fuck is HE to determine whether a post is sarcastic or not? I'm sorry honey, but the more you read on the board, the more you will figure out what is sarcasm, and what is not. There's no smiley for sarcasm, and we learned a long time ago not to bother saying "I'm just kidding, ha ha..... ha." It ruins the flavor for the more intelligent readers. As I said before, If someone wants REAL professional advice, they should go to a specialist. :cool:

it's an abbreviation of the word "emotional," but it is generally used to refer to the type of rampant, hormone driven over-emotional state of confusion and despair that most teenagers go through. Current teenagers believe that they are the only ones who have ever felt this way and they often refuse to accept the advice of those who have been through it in the past when they were teenagers.)

Examples: They are so emo. (Translation: They are teenagers or pre-teens)

The word is also used to refer to a genre of music that focuses on such feelings and is marketed towards people who are experiencing such feelings.

Example: That band is so emo (Translation: Their music is characterized by teenage angst, power chords and usually some crying or desperate screams for help and or attention. Themes often include lost or unrequited love, and problems with their parents.)

It can also be used as an insulting or derogatory remark by people who are easily annoyed by overly emotional people who like to cry alot.

Example: Stop bieng so emo! (Translation: Grow the fuck up, stop whining and deal with life and its problems.)

Hope that clears it up for you. :cool:

thanks for the definition! :p ;)

My personal favourite:

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it."

It is completely true. My mom kept on telling me this, but no I didn't listen. Now I do. And remember, everything, and I mean everything is for a reason. Things work out in the end, even if it takes a while. Have faith in yourself.

i posted this before, but whenever im blue i take time to read and remeber these and it makes me feel kinda better.

At least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.

Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

You mean the world to someone.

Without you, someone may not be living.

You are special and unique, in your own way.

Someone that you don't know even exists loves you.

When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

When you think the world has turned it's back on you, take a look, you most likely turned your back on the world.

When you think you have no chance at getting what you want, you probably won't get it, but if you believe in yourself, you probably sooner or later will get it.

Always remember complements you received, forget about the rude remarks.

Always tell someone how you feel, then they'll know.

If you have a great friend, take the time to let the know that they are great.

Regarding your post, griver...

Do parents count? o.O'' Sorry, just random question.

More advice from a former emo teen: Don't get black rimmed glasses just so you can look "emo" :cool:

More advice from a former emo teen: Don't get black rimmed glasses just so you can look "emo" :cool:

Did you do that? :D

Did you do that? :D


no, it wasn't really in style when I was emo back in highschool, but I thought about it once. :cool:

More advice from a former emo teen: Don't get black rimmed glasses just so you can look "emo" :cool:

Question. Who would WANT to look emo??

Question. Who would WANT to look emo??


apparantly alot of people. Have you seen how many styles of black-rimmed eyeglasses they are selling now? :cool:

apparantly alot of people. Have you seen how many styles of black-rimmed eyeglasses they are selling now? :cool:
LOL. I used to wear square-shaped, black-rimmed glasses just because. Now come to think of it, maybe they're still around somewhere... ;)

I need to get new glasses (lenses actually) but most places will not put new lenses in old frames. My current frames are only 3 years old, and they're fine, but most places make you buy new ones . So, anyway, I was looking at frames the other day, and I saw some black rimmed ones that I actually liked. They weren't too thick, they were just black. I tried them on and they made me look sooo emo I almost cried. I might get them just for kicks. :cool:

If you get them, post a picture! Yay. :)

just accept the fact that you'll probably be emo until you're around 20 or so, do some drugs and stop crying about everything. :cool:

Looked sarcastic to me. Don't like it? Press the little report button.

To the emo kids of the world:

You create your imagination, and from that you create 'your world', the person that you think you are. What you are able to do with that world is limited by the standards you set yourself. If you wake up and say 'today is going to be another shit day', then gueeess what, today will be the worst day you have had to date.

By all means, think things through. Analyze them if you must, but don't pick everywhere for flaws. A lot of perception is based around your mindset, as you notice different things depending on the mood you are in.

Realisticly and physically, it wouldn't make a difference how you approached each day. One day, it might and you'll be suprised...

{edit} yeah, I'm blind as a bat too. Squarish, not really that noticable, though my glasses rarely come off.

Is where i come from really so out of the loop? Id never heard the term "emo" till I moved, and everyone else was using it. How longs it been around?

And if all else fails, you can just kill yourself and/or all the people who torment you, depending on how creative you want to get with it.

And if all else fails, you can just kill yourself and/or all the people who torment you, depending on how creative you want to get with it.
I know that's meant to be sarcastic, but.. reminded me of last week when a "emo" guy killed with a gun 3 of his classmates and hurt 5 in a argentinian high school, all 'cause he was being teased for being goth.

=S

Oooooookay.. I'm guessing that's meant to be sarcastic. But who knows, the next 13 year old kid that just broke up with her boyfriend might just take your advice. Sarcasm's not always easy to catch online, especially if it's a high school freshman who just had her heart broken or something. Not meant to offend to any high school freshmen, but we've all made our share of mistakes at that age.

Maybe you'll all think I'm paranoid, but I've seen this happen to this person I know. Sometimes people can take the stupidest of advice, even when it's obvious sarcasm.
dude, what site are you on? people here are sarcastic, and usually we're all mature enough to recognize the humour.

my advice?
get a journal. write in it whenever you need to
get a cuddle bear. hug it whenever you need to.
believe it or not, your parents may just understand. unless they're the cause of the issue. In that case, friends don't let friends hurt for long. remember that.
rory

I know that's meant to be sarcastic, but.. reminded me of last week when a "emo" guy killed with a gun 3 of his classmates and hurt 5 in a argentinian high school, all 'cause he was being teased for being goth.

=S

Really? Bloody hell thats not right. I wonder if he thought that being bullied was a justificatoin.

I wonder if he thought that being bullied was a justificatoin.
have you ever been bullied? speaking as someone who has been bullied for over 10 years, i can say that, yes, i have resorted to violence after having my life made hell. i ended up giving them a severe concussion. i'm not proud of it, but i know that if i had a weapon of some kind i would've used it, even if it killed them. trust me, being bullied is not something you can get over and ignore. if someone pushes you too far and makes your life unbearable, you proberbly will go mental on them, or hurt yourself. i'm not condoning what the guy did, but i understand why he did it.

You've been bullied since before you were 5 years old? Hmm... anyway, taking a life for bullying isn't justification; one, because death doesn't teach them a lesson and two, it's taking someone's life, man. And for that, I can't understand why someone would go that far unless they were highly mentally unstable. Kids do the stupidest things, in fact I've done some very stupid things when I was younger that I look back on now and think "what the hell was I thinking?" When you grow up, you grow out of being an idiot... to kill someone is to not give them a chance to grow out of it and realise their mistake.

Anyway, I'm pretty sure this is about cheering up and whatnot. Well, usually emo kids like to write poems or lyrics, and I found the other day that after drinking a pint of lemonade (I suppose you can replace that with any sweet soda), it worked wonders for my thoughts and I was able to write some really good stuff, to the point where I actually impressed myself, which is pretty rare. So yeah, a pint of some sort of sweet drink = better writing = closure.

You've been bullied since before you were 5 years old? Hmm... anyway, taking a life for bullying isn't justification; one, because death doesn't teach them a lesson and two, it's taking someone's life, man. And for that, I can't understand why someone would go that far unless they were highly mentally unstable. Kids do the stupidest things, in fact I've done some very stupid things when I was younger that I look back on now and think "what the hell was I thinking?" When you grow up, you grow out of being an idiot... to kill someone is to not give them a chance to grow out of it and realise their mistake.
actually, i was starting to be picked on a few weeks before my 5th birthday. then it was everyday until... well, it's still happening everyday. some people (myself included) have considered taking a life so people realise it's not a good idea to bully them. once people realise that someone who is bullied can fight bck and do horrible things (severely injuring people (like i did) or even going as far as killing someone) so hopefully the bullys would realise they are not to be messed with. and, yes, being bullied can you think things that you think would make them "mentally unstable." but then, isn't it the bullys who have the real problem wanting to ruin anther persons life? i never want to take a life... but i know what it feels like to have your life made so bad that you just want to kill someone to stop them hurting you.

A bully is an extreme of a person who enjoys to torment. I think tormenting in a friendly, harmless manner is a funny aspect of life, it's quite enjoyable when you know the other person isn't really affected by it. Bullying is an extreme, like I said, so in a sense someone who bullies to the point where they enjoy watching others suffer could be classed as mentally unstable, I suppose.

Someone who is bullied is not automatically unstable because they don't enjoy it... in fact it's quite natural to feel such a way when the bullying reaches a certain level. To gain revenge on the same level, such as bullying the person back when they're older, isn't exactly abnormal, either (even though it's slightly hypocritical to complain and then do the same). But, to exeed the amount of physical and mental abuse they took would put them too in the category of "mentally unstable". You know what I mean?

A bully is an extreme of a person who enjoys to torment. I think tormenting in a friendly, harmless manner is a funny aspect of life, it's quite enjoyable when you know the other person isn't really affected by it.

That's all well and good, but how do you know that it is harmless and that it doesn't affect the other person? It depends on whether you are the one bieng picked on or not. :cool:

The one that always helps me when I'm down is Anastacia :D

have you ever been bullied? speaking as someone who has been bullied for over 10 years, i can say that, yes, i have resorted to violence after having my life made hell. i ended up giving them a severe concussion. i'm not proud of it, but i know that if i had a weapon of some kind i would've used it, even if it killed them. trust me, being bullied is not something you can get over and ignore. if someone pushes you too far and makes your life unbearable, you proberbly will go mental on them, or hurt yourself. i'm not condoning what the guy did, but i understand why he did it.

Yes I know Im a bit late replying to this but I've only just seen it. And yes, I have been bullied as a child, and yes somtimes I did resort to fighting. But that is a completely different thing to killing somone. I know your not saying what he did was right but even so I don't think that you can really understand it unless you've been at that stage. There's never an excuse for sinking down to that level over bullying, although theres probably more to the story than I know.

i have a few things i just wanna get off my chest....sorry for the annoying whinning and complaining.

#1: My parents arent bad parents...well maybe they are...but there not bad people. My parents are always complaing that we dont have any money yet my dad smokes and my mom is always buying shit we dont need. and my dads doing like 2 jobs and hes never home. I want to go to college i really do...but im gonna have to pay my own way..and theres no way I can get a scholorshop.

#2: (another one about my parents) they dont know anything about me....they dont know any of my friends, they dont knwo what i like. they dont care what i like... they ignore me. Everyday whne i come home from school i go straight to my room only to come out for dinner...no "how was your day?" or "hi" or anything......they dont even care that i lock myself up 24/7. and my mom is constantly asking me if i do drugs...its really getting on my nerves....i cant believe she doesnt trust me!

#3: im so bad at school...but i really want to go to college....i just have a really hard time concentrating and its hard for me to pay attention. AH..im not a bad student i just miss tons of information cuz i keep day dreaming about how my life could be...which gets me no where.

#4: im doing nothing with my life....i dont knwo what i want to be when i grow up...im good at NOTHING....im stupid, and im a fuckin coward.

#5: nobody cares :( i really have the feeling that no one even cares about me


ill stop at that....ill stop complaining....i could just go on and on


sorry for this....im probably just over reacting to all this

-casey

i have a few things i just wanna get off my chest....sorry for the annoying whinning and complaining.

#1: My parents arent bad parents...well maybe they are...but there not bad people. My parents are always complaing that we dont have any money yet my dad smokes and my mom is always buying shit we dont need. and my dads doing like 2 jobs and hes never home. I want to go to college i really do...but im gonna have to pay my own way..and theres no way I can get a scholorshop.

#2: (another one about my parents) they dont know anything about me....they dont know any of my friends, they dont knwo what i like. they dont care what i like... they ignore me. Everyday whne i come home from school i go straight to my room only to come out for dinner...no "how was your day?" or "hi" or anything......they dont even care that i lock myself up 24/7. and my mom is constantly asking me if i do drugs...its really getting on my nerves....i cant believe she doesnt trust me!

#3: im so bad at school...but i really want to go to college....i just have a really hard time concentrating and its hard for me to pay attention. AH..im not a bad student i just miss tons of information cuz i keep day dreaming about how my life could be...which gets me no where.

#4: im doing nothing with my life....i dont knwo what i want to be when i grow up...im good at NOTHING....im stupid, and im a fuckin coward.

#5: nobody cares :( i really have the feeling that no one even cares about me


ill stop at that....ill stop complaining....i could just go on and on


sorry for this....im probably just over reacting to all this

-casey

First off, most people of 15 find faults in their parents. Doesn't mean their bad parents if they aren't around because they have to work or if they keep asking about drugs because their concerned, if they didnt care they wouldnt ask.

Second, few people do know what they want to do at the age of 15. Loads of time to decide that. Try considering that maybe you career shouldn't necerssarilly by acedemic if you truley aren't good at anything (or maybe you should pay attemtion and stop day dreaming in class, then you'd understand a bit more what is going on).

Thirdly, no point complaining that your a coward. Only you can do somthing about that.

Lastly, all these are very typical teenage things to do through. They'll go away eventually. They did for me.

remember it could be worse.
you could have hemorrhoids and diarrhea
on the turnpike.
:)

why do threads like this just make me feel like shit?

I've never liked the "well it could be worse" idea, it's implying that your problems aren't good enough to make you feel this way, and that just makes you feel weak.

or the "it was meant to happen" idea, bad shit happens, and good shit happens, that doesn't mean they're always connected.

when you say "there are at least 5 people that would die for you" it doesn't make you feel very good if that number is lower or it isn't actually true, for most people it probably is true, but this is like asking someone to sit there and count the number of people that they think care about them, and what happens when you only count 3? it makes you feel bad about yourself.

I've always been one to look for the bad in things like this (like the above), when someone says to me "this is why you shouldn't be upset," that seems to make me upset for one reason or another.

and when you're depressed, you don't want to see the positive side of your problems, you want them to not be problems.

music is helpful, so is wasting time on the internet. but that's just means of ignoring pain or whatever, not making it go away.


My parents arent bad parents...well maybe they are...but there not bad people. My parents are always complaing that we dont have any money yet my dad smokes and my mom is always buying shit we dont need.
that sounds very familar to me.

I'm seriously considering some form of therapy because I need someone to talk to that I can tell everything, and not have to worry about censorship. I've felt lately like I have serious things wrong with me that I need to get over, social problems, phobias. I'll only have health insurance for a short while, and I'm too scared to make appointments, or find a place or whatever (I won't even call a pizza place). and medication scares the shit out of me (but I've been considering that too, just to make myself actually able to function). I lay so much on my poor boyfriend, I'm surprised he's not having a mental breakdown (though I'm sure I've driven him pretty close to that in the past). I just need someone who doesn't know me and to sit and try to explain myself to them completely, and I wan't to know what they think, and how I can be fixed.

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do I win the full-of-shit-post award for this one?

when you say "there are at least 5 people that would die for you" it doesn't make you feel very good if that number is lower or it isn't actually true, for most people it probably is true, but this is like asking someone to sit there and count the number of people that they think care about them, and what happens when you only count 3? it makes you feel bad about yourself.

How can you be sure there are only 3 people who would die for you? Ok, so you can only count 3, but what about those people who have always adored you but never had the courage to tell you, so you don't know about them!You can never be sure what someone thinks or feels about you. :D

Im not sure I understand why three people who would die for you isn't enough.

and when you're depressed, you don't want to see the positive side of your problems, you want them to not be problems.

I agree. "If we want to heal we must take the old manure and fertilize the flowers." (Toni Morrison)

There's a really cool Chinese Proverb that says "You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair." One thing that works for a lot of people is hope - the fact that it exists, the fact that you can change, and the fact that things can get better with some effort.

I just need someone who doesn't know me and to sit and try to explain myself to them completely, and I wan't to know what they think, and how I can be fixed.

It's probably a good idea to do that, but also don't underestimate the people you already know to talk to. One more cheesy quote: "Sometimes, perhaps, it is best to open up your feelings to that person that is just sitting right in front of you, because you never know if they'll be there again." (Matt Reiner). If you think it'll help you, go with therapy, but don't disregard other people's wisdom and advice that you already know... they can help too, and probably won't charge as much. :cool:

How can you be sure there are only 3 people who would die for you? Ok, so you can only count 3, but what about those people who have always adored you but never had the courage to tell you, so you don't know about them!You can never be sure what someone thinks or feels about you. :D
I'm just saying, when you're in that mindset you don't think like that. there probably are more if you can only count three, but it just might make you feel less important than most if that's all you count after reading that.


Im not sure I understand why three people who would die for you isn't enough.
it is! of couse. but for the reason I stated above, it could make you feel bad. that's just the way I see it, I dunno.

Granted it can be hard to be grateful for what u got, lord knows i wasnt, untill one of the people who i would have said would have died for me, died. Made me see that it isnt quantity that counts.

Sometimes, i stick my head in the freezer and just breathe cold air from the icebox. Mmm... Thats like chocolate to me. I just stop and just breathe...That makes everything good for me!
the funny thing about this, is I was going to say almost the exact same thing...but I turn on the taps and make a steam room. No not a jamacian shower lol, but kinda like a sauna, or I go to the sauna in my apt building. Its the heat that comforts me.

Granted it can be hard to be grateful for what u got, lord knows i wasnt, untill one of the people who i would have said would have died for me, died. Made me see that it isnt quantity that counts.

I see your point. This post desires some clarification, though. If you want to. :cool:

My advice for almost any bad thing that happens in three easy steps:

Step 1: Eat as much chocolate as you like, without feeling any guilt because you deserve it.

Step 2: Take a really hot bath and give yourself a spa treatment before bed.

Step 3: Go to the gym and work off all the chocolate, even if you don't need it because it makes you feel like you've done something good for yourself. Then look in the mirror and tell yourself you're so freaking hot, because you are.


Then you feel better. Works every time.

My advice for almost any bad thing that happens in three easy steps:

Step 1: Eat as much chocolate as you like, without feeling any guilt because you deserve it.

Step 2: Take a really hot bath and give yourself a spa treatment before bed.

Step 3: Go to the gym and work off all the chocolate, even if you don't need it because it makes you feel like you've done something good for yourself. Then look in the mirror and tell yourself you're so freaking hot, because you are.


Then you feel better. Works every time.

Fantastic advice, all round.

I see your point. This post desires some clarification, though. If you want to. :cool:

All I was saying was that I used to feel the same way, like I didn't have anyone who care'd, like I wasn't good at anything and that there was no point to being alive etc.... until somone I really cared about died. It made me see that what I did have was far more important than whining about what I didn't. It was also a motavation to go and actually do somthing about those things I was whining about, and not just dwel on it.

Here's what I do:

Go to bed. Don't wake up for a long, long time.

tee hee...my mommy gave me this and its almost guaranteed to get at least a chuckle. laughter and love are the best cures for any ailment!

Girls Night Out..
Two women friends had gone for a girls night out and had been decidedly over enthusiastic on the Bacardi Breezers.
Incredibly drunk and walking home they needed to pee. They were very near a graveyard and one of them suggested they do their business behind one of the head stones or something. The first woman had nothing to wipe with so she thought she'd take off her panties, use them, then throw them away. Her friend however was wearing a rather expensive underwear set and didnt want to ruin hers but was lucky enough to salvage a large ribbon from a wreath that was on one of the graves and proceeded to wipe herslef with that. After finishing, they then made off for home. The next day the first woman's husband phoned the other husband and said:
"these damn girls night out have got to stop. My wife came home last night without her panties!" "Thats nothing" said the other, "Mine came back with a card stuck between the cheeks of her ass that said: 'from all of us at the fire station. we'll never forget you."

lol

When I'm feeling blue or ill, I curl up in bed with cosy pajamas and dressing gown, with a good supply of chocolate or something nice like that and watch films, usually classics, because they make me feel good :D

amy

For people who are depressed, self harmers or just get bored there's this great idea called a Happy Box.

What it is is a storage container of some sort wew you puts things that will cheer you up, distract you or just help you out.

I have created a site that give more details on it
Happy Box (http://happybox.bravehost.com)

sometimes when you feel crappy there's nothing you can do about it...but you just have to remember that you won't feel like it forever! it may seem like it but you will get better! just hold on to that and you'll be fine!

For people who are depressed, self harmers or just get bored there's this great idea called a Happy Box.

What it is is a storage container of some sort wew you puts things that will cheer you up, distract you or just help you out.

I have created a site that give more details on it
Happy Box (http://happybox.bravehost.com)

That's a really good idea :). When I feel really down, I either:

-Play on video games. It really takes my mind off of everything that's going on in the world, I can be lost in them for hours. Usually I play shooting games, because that lets me take out all my frustration. It works.

-Listen to loud music. Usually some Marilyn Manson, Nightwish or Rammstein. It just takes my mind off all the shit that's going on.

Recently though, I've been doing a lot of running. I'd reccommend it because when you're running a long distance, you don't think about anything and concentrate on the run. It's tiring, but worth it. But warm up first.

And warm down afterwards. I forgot that and now Im sore as hell. That happy box thing is a good idea.

www.livejournal.com... It always helps me when I'm pissed, angry, depressed to write in it what u feel and let it out.. Or write anywhere, anything, just random adjective to describe how u feel or poetry or just right what u feel!! Always helps me out


2. Music.. I swear I could never survive without music :o

Love the idea of the Happy Box, btw :)

I've been diagnosed with depression and I should be on medication soon, but here are some ideas that my doctor gave me:

1. Listen to music, that will always help.
2. Take a nice long hot shower or a bath. It's really relaxing.
3. Get a journal. Write in it when you're stressed out. Writing will always help sort out what you're dealing with and it also helps get everything out.
4. Go for a walk outside. Enjoy the outdoors. And if it's raining or snowing, watch from a window. It always helps to relieve stress and appreciate nature as well.
5. Go outside and do something you like. Go play a sport you like, do some errands around the house, etc. The fresh air will help relieve stress.

That's all. Hope that helped!

When you are really depressed and unhappy with your life, cheering and advices don't make a difference, if they would, that would only be for the worse.

I can only speak for myself and of course there is a degree on HOW depressed person from person does feel. I don't want to sound like a frantic and suicidal guy, but some things only time can solve. If they ever do?
I'm not sure, because in a way I like being really depressed, it gives you a some sort of a beautiful perspective, maybe in a negative way, still beautiful.

I almost never talk in real life anymore, I don't bother with it. Sometimes it feels like im a bit of an exeption - a psycho? - but still I'm just like the rest in same age. Everyone feels alone and that makes us NOT being "the only one with such problems". But it is still ironic.

The happy box is an awesome idea. Chocolate and a hot shower always makes me feel better. So does just getting out of the house. Writing in a journal helps. Meditating helps. Music helps. Playing with my cat helps.

Sometimes, the best way to feel better is to just cry. You should let everything out, and you will feel better afterwards. Tears dont always have to be for somethign bad, they can represent moving on, and dealing with whatever life throws at you.

I asked for some black-rimmed glasses for christmas! :cool:

I'm all for people with some serious issues being helped.

However, if you're going to bullshit your way through by attention whoring, I'm sorry but it's not going to work.

I'll ban you before it gets that far.

I wouldn't count on this board or any other message board for that matter to look for help.

Quite honestly if you have something life or death, go see a therapist.

don't depend on message boards for all of your problem solutions.
yeah, you can come here and talk to us, but talking to your friends IRL helps even more, because they are familiar with you, and how you are, and how best to help you, judging by things that have happened before. whereas we only know the situation.
Rory

exercise makes me feel better.
u use up all that negative energy you have for something good...and then your body is filled with precious endorphines yay!!

reading always helps me feel better
as does a shower.

Write in a journal, listen to music, and remember, you only live once. Don't kill yourself, if you feel that bad then tell someone and try to make the best of everything, even when you feel really bad. And cry, it does help to relieve stress.

Some advice from C. Manson
~"Don't live in yesterday's world. Don't put too much faith in what tomorrow is supposed to bring, for it seldom happens as planned. Don't lock yourself too close to any one person, for if you do, you're sure to be hurt. If you want to share with other people, share what you have. Don't hide behind emotions and what others, such as parents, have programmed you to do. Get your head out of material things, for it only puts you in competition with greedy, power-concious pigs. Wipe your own ass, do your own thing, and ego be damned."

***People lie, things go wrong, shit happens, life goes on!***

Never hurt yourself, someone will always be willing to listen if you look around!

This is a great therapy thing I like to have when I feel depress or times just aren't going so well. It's called a Happy Box. It's a container that you put things to distract you, make you feel better and so on. You can decorate the container and then add things as part of the distraction. Here's a link to a site all about them.

Happy Box (http://happybox.bravehost.com)

I've never left a message in this thread, so, I'm guessing that this has been said over and over again. But, a good way to try to ignore pain people are enduring? Listen to music. Music is thearpy, and it can help you, even if all it does is put a smile on your face. That smile is showing happiness.

One thing I do is talk to my aunt. That woman helps me through so much, she talks to me, and show she cares, and just knowing that she cares washes everything away. If you don't have someone close to your heart, like I do, try the music thing. Another great thing is playing music. On my keyboard I just got, I play it, and everything suddenly feels fine.

If all you think you have left is you, then don't let yourself bring you down. You just have to bite your upperlip, protect your balls, and pray for the best...

Since this forum is geared mainly towards problems and rough times we are having, I thought it'd be nice to get insight on how to feel better in general. Sometimes just hearing concepts and thoughts you didn't think of before are worth a shot. And usually, they're more productive than you would have guessed.

So, if you have any suggestions on how to cheer up / have a better outlook on life or problems, post 'em here, and help a fellow evboarder smile a little wider!


I like to chant Pink Floyd's "Empty Spaces" a few times when life just kicks me around... Then when I'm a little calmer, I just remember that lifes a roller coster and that for every down there's an up. The harder the fall, the higher the rise.

To cheer up just do something that takes your mind of what is making you sad or just be a little optimistic once in a while, e.g: If you 've never had a girlfriend just say ' I'll get a girlfiend someday, even if see does come packed in a box with a pump.' A bit crude I know. Watch your fav comedy (That would be a good thread startr if there is not already one) do something that will cheer you up.
Ok see you later, bye.

Paul thats rich coming from you. (LOL EMO!!!!!!!!) I find that listenign to heavy (but not sad) music is good and/or horror films which if (like me and Scab0beast) you have a black sense of humour then will make u laugh.

Wsoran

Paul thats rich coming from you. (LOL EMO!!!!!!!!) I find that listenign to heavy (but not sad) music is good and/or horror films which if (like me and Scab0beast) you have a black sense of humour then will make u laugh.

Wsoran

I would like to ad that me and Wsoran found The Ring very funny, Fav bitys are:
When horse goes overboard
When 'scabby cave girl' appears
'scabby cave girl' is nickname for the girl that comes out of the tv, v. funny.

Ok see you later bye

I've never left a message in this thread, so, I'm guessing that this has been said over and over again. But, a good way to try to ignore pain people are enduring? Listen to music. Music is thearpy, and it can help you, even if all it does is put a smile on your face. That smile is showing happiness.

One thing I do is talk to my aunt. That woman helps me through so much, she talks to me, and show she cares, and just knowing that she cares washes everything away. If you don't have someone close to your heart, like I do, try the music thing. Another great thing is playing music. On my keyboard I just got, I play it, and everything suddenly feels fine.

to flush out the depressing feeling everyday, either i'll listen to various types of music, talk to my friends over dinner or just go window shopping. i prefer looking at nice colourful things or crack a joke with my friends.. if i don't do that, i would have a breakdown years ago.

hormone therapy works. :cool:

this is going to sound so cheesy and i hate saying it but its the truth!

whenever i feel low and depressed i think of amy. she always seems to cheer me up! i think of how bubbly she is and how friendly she seems - ive never met her so i don't really know for sure. she has such a great vibe!

well now ive made you all barf i'll go! lol!
luv
kirsty

this may sound odd, but sometimes when I am down I play neopets. It makes me forget what's wrong and so on.

I've been there too and i can say it gets better so don't worry about it too much. lol This is gonna sound so stupid but drugs helped me through my troubles but I don't want any of you to do something like I did. I became liked by others and feared by others and it really build my confidence. Drugs (weed only) caused and ended my depression and I know it's stupid to fall to peer pressure but I did and it helped me so yea....sorry i don't have a better story for you all but that's my experiance.

peotry is my salvation I dont know what I would do without by endless pages of dark thoughts

i know its already been said, but..
things will always get better

Just know that life is in you today, and YOU make your tomorrow.

As hard as this might come across to some of you reading this - and this might not be the most sympathetic thing to post in such a thread - I really think that every person on God's Green Earth is where they are because ultimately, the've somehow taken decisions down the road here and there and are in the condition they are today, because they chose to be where they are today.

I'm not saying that because that prick/b#tch decided to cheat on you, its because your too damn ugly and its your fault..no, not at all. But YOU chose to be with him/her...you get my drift...?

So yes, you are responsible for what you make out of your life! "Ouch!" you say...but when you think about it, it isn't really so harsh. I think its a way of looking a things that puts you more in a position of CONTROL over life and difficult situations, rather then the EFFECT of them. "Now what the heck did I do to pull this towards myself...?"

I'm sorry if I come across as a insensitive...

And yes, in the end, those big and unsurmountable problems of today, will be petty things you will most likely laugh at tommorow.

all things happen for a reason....

the other day something happened to me and taught me a lesson...the hard way...alright, i was dating this guy for almost a year...i was so in love with him, and i gave everything i could possible give in the relationship, which was stupid of me. i thought he loved me as much as i loved him, but boy was i fooled. Last Wednesday, we decided we needed to take time apart from each other...not break up, just be apart for awhile...well anyways, this past weekend I find out he was at his friend's house getting drunk and ends up calling his ex-girlfriend who just turned 15...he's soon going to be 19 on Feb.16....well anyways, he called her and she took him home and they screwed in his drive-way. He had told everyone he was happy i was gone, because i was too obsessed with him....i mean yeah, it hurts more than anything i have ever expierenced, no lie, but im getting over it. ive learned not to lay my heart out in the open unless i know in my heart that he loves me the same amount i love him...hell im 18, i shouldnt be worried about settling down yet, i know this, its just that ive been through such a hard time these past few years, and i fell for the first guy that came along and acted like he loved me.
You know, of all things, he says his main problem is what happened to him before i came along. See, he was supposed to be getting married to this girl named Tina Dover, they were engaged and everything. One day his uncle asked him to ride with him to Maine (his uncle drives a truck) so he wouldnt have to unload the truck by himself i guess....well anyways, while Johnathan (my ex) was in Maine, Tina was brutally murdered by her next door neighbor. She was strangled and raped, by what he said. I mean i know that would emotionally scar anyone, but you cant hold on to the past forever.
I would say that i am going to always love him no matter what, but he took my love for granted....i couldnt handle that again...
anyways, for all you depressed and emotionally scarred people, there is always hope, just look up, not down. always live life day by day. if anyone ever needs anyone to talk to, my email address for MSN is nickie_mccomb@hotmail.com, and my yahoo is nikkie_mccomb28@yahoo.com. if you have messenger, we can talk on there. im always open to meet new people and see what all we have in common.

What goes up must come down....
But it can be lifted up again.

Sticks and stones break bones, but names can't hurt me.

Music is a way to escape. I love music and i get lost in it. Maybe if you use music to express yourself listern or play music that reflects your mood. Or if it influences your mood, then play some happy up beet music. Or you know what draw write. Do something. Sitting and pondering about an issue doesn't make it go away. What else is there to do when doing nothing, but think?

How I cheer up is I try to take control of things. Before, I relied on other people, things, etc. and they never made me feel okay. So one day, I finally sat down, wrote out everything that I felt was "wrong" with me, said it outloud, admitted it, and accepted it so it could never harm me again. I stopped relying on things like family, friends, and religion, and started living my life without regrets. The second part may not help some of you, but doing the first part by listing out things you may be "lying to yourself" about did wonders.

Oh, and cookies help. Ice cream and cookies. For me, it's Chunky Monkey and oreos. MmmmmmmMmMMMM!

I was in therapy for a while to deal with unresolved issues. When I was in high school I was practically the smartest person I know, and now that I'm in college that is not as true as it used to be. The first time I failed a paper in college I cried for hours, which is probably a normal reaction. But the thoughts that followed (that I was a complete failure in everything) absolutely weren't.

My best suggestion to someone struggling with depression is to change your thoughts. If you hear that little voice inside you lying to you, you have to confront it. It's also important to forcibly remove yourself from your actions. For instance, say you did something bad, like gossiping about a friend. You shouldn't say to yourself "I'm a bad person" just based on that one thing. Instead, say "I'm a good person who sometimes messes up. I'll do better in the future." Just like when I was telling myself I was a total failure, I was lying to myself. "I'm an intelligent, wonderful person who did not perform perfectly this time. I'll try to study harder and do more research next time" would have been a much more logical self-thought to have.

Don't hate yourself. Instead, hate the thoughts that cause you to doubt that you are a wonderful, unique person deserving of good things.

<3 Mary

I try to think of each day as a gift, not a promise. We may not be here tomorrow, so we should live today to the fullest.



Whenever I feel down it sometimes helps to reach out to someone else. It helps to take me away from myself and focus on the needs of others. You never know, one smile could save a life. One life could change the world...if only we would make the choice to live.

Small thing that always works for me if I'm stressed about a project or work or just plain stressed:

I sit down, take a breathe and think about nothing. Then I think about what is stressing me and I realize that it doesn't matter. So I don't quite understand what I'm supposed to be doing? It's not the end of the world and lots of people have had way worse things to be stressed about.

Also, I make lists/run-on sentences. I break out my laptop and just type. Seemingly stupid insignificant phrases separated by commas. I save them and every once in a while I go back and read them. Sometimes they make sense after a bit.

The basic rule of cheering up (provided that you're not clinically depressed [which uber-sucks]) is realizing that it's not as bad as it seems and it's not going to ruin your life or kill you on the spot. *nod*

I personally like to listen to some classical music. It really calms me down, or makes me smile. Particularly compositions by Eric Whitacre.....I <3 his music.

Reading books helps me out quite a bit, too. They help take your mind off things....Just be sure to really concentrate on the book (ie, visualize what's happening, come up with your own "what if" scenarios and answer them, etc.) to make sure you can really lose yourself in it.

Also, for the people disposed to technical (ie-computers....Also means "For the geekier people ;) ), try tweaking your computer (color schemes, organize files)....It can be quite fun for some people, kind of like cleaning...In a computer sense haha.

-Craig

"only hope"


we live in a world full of mistakes. making mistakes is normal. but don't make the same mistake again :)

you should not hide your problems and feelings. if you feel tired and lonely, think about the world. there are millions of ppl around us and have the same problem.

talk to ppl, just speak about what you think, what your fears are and so on. it can be hard but you can get some good advices.

learn from your mistakes. there is no life without mistakes and bad moments.

One thing that really helps me is to remember to not let anyone have any effect on how I feel. If someone says something mean or spiteful about you let it go...life is way too short to hold on to anger, regret, or sorrow. I mean don't get me wrong that you shouldn't feel any emotions at all, but you have to disregard what every one else says so that you can focus on what you want and what you need to accomplish.

I really used to let what people said and did get to me and now I just see it doesn't matter what they do...I will never be able to change them and I definatly can not change myself for them.

~*~Advice for those who feel they don't fit in~*~
I really don't think I'll ever fit in...anywhere. I'm just destined to be a loner. But I have learned to embrace this part of me. It means freedom and that I am never tied down. I mean sometimes sure I get pretty down about it, but I really like the fact of NOT fitting in. So embrace your uniqueness in this world of clones...

Peace, Mello!

I find the best thing to make me feel better is to take the advice of the gorgeous Pauley Perrette (when talking to Craig Fergeson - which i know i've spelt wrong but cant be bothered figuring out the right spelling).

Think about Freddie Mercury in his black and white leotard. No matter how bad your life gets, and no matter what happens to you, remember, you are not on stage wearing a black and white leotard, and nor are you likely to be any time soon. (unless you are, in which case disregard this post, as your life truly is over!)

Ambition.

Ambition is the key to life, remember that if you aren't so good in school you have talent elsewhere! Never doubt your self worth, you are an improtant person and nobody can take that from you! I think that when you feel down about yourself just think positive, think of your good accomplishments, don't say you don't have any because you have surely made someone smile in your life, thats an accomplishment!! You are a good person, of course we have made mistakes and thats a part of life, it happens. Even if it seems like there is no hope, that period in your life will come to pass and you will feel better, maybe not this week, next week or even next year but it will happen! Good Luck and remember you are an important person! &hearts;

If i need cheering up a bucket of icecream and a coldplay CD usually do it :D

I had to add something kinda funny to this. Coincidentally, I read something today that kinda pertains to this thread:

"Whenever you feel small, useless, offended or depressed, always remember that you were once the fastest and most victorious sperm out of hundreds of millions."

;)

When im feeling blue i do plenty of things to try and get out of it.

I listen to music- all different types, but it has to be loud enough that i cant here myself think.
I meditate too, and think about what it is thats getting me and look inside myself for the answers.
I always talk to other people cause guarenteed that someone somewhere would have gone through exactly what you are going through or if not be able to help you deal with it.
My Dr always told me to excercise cuase when we do that we realease endorphins that make us feel better- and it works really well i was pretty skeptik to begin with but now im always Happy and Hypo boy am i Hypo...

Something my therapist once said, focus on things that are in your field of influence, you cannot change some people but you can control how it effects you, and again i didnt believe her but, you know it is true, dont get hung up on what other people think and be yourself.

ok and heres one i do with my wife all the time....

make a fist "this is your pot" now think about the things that are bothering you and put them in your pot - actually do this, when your done filling your pot clench your fist , clench it sooooooo tight and imagine all of the negative energy flowing into your fist, it takes a pit of practise but you will feel it, then just open your hand....let it all go, this works especially well when i want to forget about something. this will only work if you concentrate on it and really focus on letting go, try it sometime, it may sound stupid but its how i let go. :)