The majority of my sophmore year at high school was centered around one thing. He changed my life more then even i realized until more recently. He broke my heart and made me feel like I wasn't good enough. Over the summer I moved on. I have completely gotten over what happened and I am slowly working on getting over him. Which i know can't just magically go away. Well i was dreading the first day of school not knowing what to expect. Well as usual nothing happened. more like i should say he said nothing. Since this whole thing started he has always stared at me and tried to hide it. I didn't notice for a while then when things started to get bad i did notice. It annoyed me and hurt me so much because he wouldn't talk to me. yet he constantly stared at me. I was hoping to come back this year with a clean slate and forget about it all. all was going well until i saw him watching me. More like i felt it then looked over and saw him. Now for the past week he has continued to do so and honestly it's driving me nuts. I try not to let it get to me but it bugs me so much. Part of me wants to call him on it. To yell and scream at him that he has no right to look at me like that. The rest of me is worried about starting drama. I'm happy and I don't want that to change. But all of this still pisses me off. So any advice on what to do about him would be much appreciated.

Sandra

Honestly....Screw him...You can't risk your happieness by worrying about something you are already over. If you are happy and have truthfully moved on,keep it that way. You can't get anywhere in life by bringing your past into the future...It's something hard to do, but if you are able to just forget him totally,you will find it so much easier to move on. When he stares at you or whatever, just look the other way and don't let it phase you... If this is someone who hurt you, just stop thinking about it all together.Push the past memories aside and get on with your life.

It's always easier to let something bug you then to shrug it off. I've learned to just not care what other people think because it's better that way. You never have to worry about trying to please anyone,and you don't have to worry about meeting their expectations...anyways back to the topic...You said you have totally moved on from him, so keep that in mind... Maybe he hasn't moved on from you...

Alana

Sounds like you had a guy, then...didnt. Now it bugs you that he looks at you and doesnt talk to you?

Maybe you should go talk to him and clear things up? Im not entirely sure what the problem is, unless its what i stated above. And if you dont wanna talk to him- just forget it, then.

well technically i didn't have him. we never dated. We were friends for awhile and then i told him i liked him. After that classes changed and i didn't get to really see him anymore. We didn't talk and well then i tried talking to him online and he'd ignore me. So we'd get into these huge fights because i'd get really upset that he was ignoring me and I just wanted to know what was going on. I mean he was acting like we couldn't even be friends. Really it's a very long story. I posted threads about it but they got deleted in the wipe out. it's a long complicated story. And i do ignore it. Or at least i look away and keep my cool and don't let him see it gets to me. I'm trying really hard not to let it but it's easier said then done.

sandra

I knew a guy like that.. I liked him a whole lot too. We dated, but he found someone else.. around the same time we dated. I feel like I was used in way.. in a way I don't know all the details. I knew him for many years and as of this summer we no longer speak. He would ignore me and not want to talk to me while he had found someone else until she let him go.. and I finally realized I'm not going to take it anymore. So, basically.. I say try to speak with him in person and if that doesn't work just don't worry about.. act like you don't notice or something.. just don't let him have what he wants because you obviously don't need that. You don't need him.. it takes a long time to realize that sometimes but it might just be your best decision ever.

Sometimes I do the same thing. But I always try to talk to the girls now. I freaked this one poor girl out so much that she started yelling at me. Cause she thought I was following her. That girl though I never looked at. So I don’t know what her problem was. I talked to her though after that incident. So I don’t know. What helped me was that the girl let me know about this. How she felt that it was happening. Cause I didn’t even realize I was doing this. I felt so bad cause this was happening for a long time and I didn’t even know that I was doing it. So after we talked I did my best to avoid her. I wish girls would just talk and tell what’s going on. So guys like me can avoid it. With my luck I always seem to bump into these girls. So my advice from a guy is to tell him. Tell him to stop it. If he doesn’t tell some one is your next option. Hope fully he is like me and feel bad and do his best to not to do it again.

The thing is I'm worried about talking to him. Having summer vacation was both a blessing and a curse. While it helped me come to terms with everything and made me feel a little better about it, it also means that if i did try and talk to him about it i'd be bringing up something that we haven't talked about or tried to talk about in months. He used to stare at me all the time last year and i would try and talk to him, by taking the cowards way out and iming him. He'd make excuses as to why he couldn't talk and then one day i bugged the shit out of him until he told me the reason he ignored the note i sent him which started this whole big fight (well i guess that's what you'd call it) he blamed it on not liking notes which is the lamest cop out i have ever heard since i had written him before and he had responded. I was hurt and pissed and i said some things i kind of regret saying. That was the last time i talked to him and i don't know if i'll ever be able to go up and talk to him face to face. Just the thought of it scares the shit out of me.

Sandra

I think the only solution is just to drop it then and quit worrying about it. Nothing is gonna get done otherwise.

The thing is I'm worried about talking to him. Having summer vacation was both a blessing and a curse. While it helped me come to terms with everything and made me feel a little better about it, it also means that if i did try and talk to him about it i'd be bringing up something that we haven't talked about or tried to talk about in months. He used to stare at me all the time last year and i would try and talk to him, by taking the cowards way out and iming him. He'd make excuses as to why he couldn't talk and then one day i bugged the shit out of him until he told me the reason he ignored the note i sent him which started this whole big fight (well i guess that's what you'd call it) he blamed it on not liking notes which is the lamest cop out i have ever heard since i had written him before and he had responded. I was hurt and pissed and i said some things i kind of regret saying. That was the last time i talked to him and i don't know if i'll ever be able to go up and talk to him face to face. Just the thought of it scares the shit out of me.

Sandra


Well that’s understandable. I wouldn’t talk to him either if he was acting that way. What heck is this doods problem. Well I agree with everything you have said here. So what you think is best in this situation is what you should do. Don’t give in to him either if he comes back for any reason. Just ignore him like he did you.

yeah i actually have felt a lot better since i wrote the thread in the first place. I think i'll probably just let it go for a while and if it keeps going on like it is now then i'll just tell him to cut the shit. The worse that could happen is me feeling like an idiot which is a pretty common occurence when it comes to him. thanks guys.

sandra

Looks like he regrets breaking up with you and wants you back.

Looks like he regrets breaking up with you and wants you back.
Wow. You can tell that? :p

How exactly did you come to that conclusion and- how is that advice, no less?

Wow. You can tell that? :p

How exactly did you come to that conclusion and- how is that advice, no less?

...and how exactly is your post advice?

...and how exactly is your post advice?
Hopefully a catalyst to get the other person to explain their way and elaborate. I already added my bit of advice earlier. :)

My apologies, you're righ. My post was neither elaborate nor actual advice.

That was the first thing that came to my head. I say that because I have never heard of a guy looking at a girl and trying to hide it for reasons other than that he has a thing for her/thinks she's hot.

I also speak from experience. I've done that to girls that I've liked since I was in fourth grade. Also, I broke up with my ex and regretted it, and would often look at her and turn away when she noticed me. I felt stupid for breaking up with her and wanted to get back together with her, despite it being a semi-nasty end.

I can't think of a reason as to why he would be looking at you and trying to hide it.

My advice: ask him about it. If he denies it, tell him you've seen it and ask him why. Explain to him that it is making you uncomfortable and that you would like him to stop.

yeah that seems to be my only options, since just ignoring it bugs the shit out of me. I'll just have to think about the best way to go about it. I do it in front of a bunch of people he's going to flip. So i'll have to like try and talk to him when his friends aren't around since he's more likely to be honest. Thanks for all your guys' imput. I guess I just needed someone else to tell me what to do even though I kind of knew it would come to this eventually. thanks to everyone that replied.

sandra