For those of you who have been in an online relationship, do you think they are worth it?

Nah.. because if you grow to love an internet lover and they live 1000 miles away... then it sucks for both people.

i've never been in an internet relationship...however, two people from another board that i used to post at met about two years ago, were going out for a while, and recently got married. and she moved from the USA to canda to live with him...

so i think it is worth it :)

Before I would have probably avoided it...

But lately there's this person who I'm really into, and he's the first person to actually like me. It sucks that he lives so far away.
Not so far away that it would be impossible to ever meet, just difficult. I would definitely want to visit if I could work it out.

I think being so far away would be difficult, but if you ever have the chance to meet the person then it would definitely be worth it.

I've actually been in a internet relationship..I think it gives you a chance to fall in love with their personality before you fall in love with anything else :D

i try to avoid any internet relationships
i've been there and i never wanna go through that again
it sucked so much being apart from eachother
but it's not something i can control... love

anyway
mine wasn't worth it...

NO, they are not.

Long distance is not good for any relationship. I've met more than a few people off the Net at events or parties. . some were okay, a couple were great people, the majority were not people I'd want to associate with. I'm not saying it can't happen, but the chances are very slim.

They can most definetly be worth it.

Finding someone you are compatible with, connect with, and care about on the internet is not a hard thing to do.. the hard part is finding someone who is completely honest with who they really are. If you're able to find that, can build on that trust, and keep a realistic look at things, I don't see why it can't work. After all, that is what transportation is for, is it not?

If you should happen to find love over the net, make sure to have money, and be willing to go the distance. Otherwise, it really isn't worth the heartache in the end. Trust me. :/

For those of you who have been in an online relationship, do you think they are worth it?

Cut it out, Mbm Anus...Jeez...Don't you know already? Online relationships NEVER work out.

Anus.

EDIT: Plus, you are an Anus...

EDIT: Where the hell have you been, anus? I've missed you :(

Cut it out, Mbm Anus...Jeez...Don't you know already? Online relationships NEVER work out.

Anus.


It's too difficult but not IMPOSSIBLE. I know people who married after 2 years of relationship on line, and travelling too... of course! Otherwise, never work out as ToB said.

Online relationships are extremely difficult, but not impossible. Are they worth it? Very rarely, I think, but it depends.

The people you meet online so often lie about who they are. Men often prey on lesbians, for instance, by pretending to be women. Sure, it's about the personality, but I think it really sucks to fall in love with someone online and then meet them and realize you wouldn't ever be physically attracted to them because men aren't your thing.

Also, people lie about their ages online. My friend, who is 17, recently met this guy she'd been talking to online for about seven months. He had told her he was 19, within our state's statutory tolerance, but it turns out he was 53. Obviously, this was not a workable relationship for her, and definitely not worth it.

But I do know people who have had excellent relationships with people met online. For me, it's a risk/benefit analysis type thing. Online dating is a game of chance, with true love as the prize. All those lottery tickets sure are expensive, and the chances of winning are small. But if you DO happen to win the love lottery, it is definitely worth it.

<3 Mary


I don't know if any of you care, but a debate thread exactly like this one was created and locked in December.

Anus.

EDIT: Plus, you are an Anus...

EDIT: Where the hell have you been, anus? I've missed you :(

ToB Boy! Anus is always there even you can't see it... single... unique...


I don't know if any of you care, but a debate thread exactly like this one was created and locked in December.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!

http://www.evboard.com/showthread.php?t=5768

ToB Boy! Anus is always there even you can't see it... single... unique...

You are an anal fissure, Jerry!

Oh, I unlocked this thread because I can't see a reason for that other thread being locked originally other than the fact that it degraded into a nonsensical idiotic debate. :D

You are an anal fissure, Jerry!

NO THANKS! TOO PAINFUL! :(

let's see, i don't think it's good. i have a friend suffering right now cuz she can't decide between a guy she likes where she lives and the one she loves online..... ain't fun dealing with long distance relationships. i don't ever want to be in one for sure.

NO THANKS! TOO PAINFUL! :(

Ummm...OMFG I can't believe you posted that...

You're fired!

not worth it ..
sad experiences :(
never ever want it anymore ..
Its not over with her yet ... but i have decided to live my life .. real one what i didnt have .

Ummm...OMFG I can't believe you posted that...

You're fired!


That one was Disneyworld compared with others I found. I am civilized, there are underaged evboarders. :D

If you mean kids online who role-play and go out with other people online, and never meet- thats...not a b/f & g/f thing. I dont even see that as companionship. Ive had friends who met online, eventually met each other in real life (they're only kids- 15, 16) and a month later, they hated each other.

On the other hand, if its on a mature level, and you do meet up with the other person, things can go well.

I just think the chances of things going as well online as in real life are very different.

So are they worth it? It might be.

Damn, I walked in here thinking 'another thread I can lock, doo daa, doo daaa'.

Online relationships are hard. They take a lot of effort on both sides, and it's stressfull to go to sleep thinking the person you care about is 124262 miles away.

I don't think this can be something that can be honestly debated about. It very much depends on the two individuals. For some, the gap is completley unnoticable, and the relationship can work because you feel that closeness no matter how far you are away.

In another instance, it can be quiet hurtful and be the only (negative) thought taking over who you are.

It depends on gas prices. Guessing on the distance factor.

tMR

Online relationships suck. There's nothing worse than trying to screw your computer. :cool:

I think when it works, the rewards are enormous. You can meet a much wider variety of people online, more than you'd meet in your own town/city/hamlet. This increases the odds of meeting your soulmate.

Remember to get a pic or cam them as soon as you can to eliminate the hosers. Talking on the phone is of course imperative as well. Trust your instincts. I think you can tell pretty quickly if someone is playin' ya.

We only hear about the negative, but I personally know several folks who are very happy and some that even married. The immediacy of IM and the ability to know someone first by their personality is a 'good thing'.

Ever watch that show E Love?

Someone wise mentioned that thats what transportation is for.;)

AndY

I don't know if any of you care, but a debate thread exactly like this one was created and locked in December.
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!

http://www.evboard.com/showthread.php?t=5768
So, um...I skimmed through the previous thread, and as our eloquent friend said:


There is nothing to debate. It is a thread where people can offer opinions and attempt to validate them with stories.
I'm not saying it should be locked again, but maybe moved over to CoT or W&C where people may continue to offer their two cents and attempt to validate them with personal anecdotes and stories? ;)

For the record, my boyfriend and I met online. We've been together for seven years now. Never actually had a fight, but everybody tells us we're weird that way, and that you shouldn't worry; it's not over until you both scream "I hate you! I never want to see/hear from you again!" :)

Cut it out, Mbm Anus...Jeez...Don't you know already? Online relationships NEVER work out.

Anus.

EDIT: Plus, you are an Anus...

EDIT: Where the hell have you been, anus? I've missed you :(


As I am fighting with her now, I wish I could say I could walk away from one. But, I dunno, glutton for punishment.

I'm not one to fall in love very often, and it always seems with women that are about 5064855 leagues above me.

and right now I feel like an anus..really.

btw I've been around, just got busy with life and needed a small break from the boards, but im back in black lol.

but on the upside its just a normal fight it seems, which is good...you know with my fear of abandoment and all I always fear the last fight with be the last one, you know?

edit: okay maybe worse than i thought....

Well, I haven't been in one so I'm not necessarily one to say but I don't think they are. If you meet somebody online and begin to like them, you should go and meet them. And then see. If it's a relationshiop where you two can end up in the same place at the end and be physically together, then it's okay, it just takes a lot of patience. But if you live in different continents and will likely never meet or be together, what's the point? I think that relationships require being in the same room. Relationships are about more than just the spiritual side and I don't mean just sex but going to the store together, cooking, meeting friends, cleaning the house. That kinda stuff are important.

And it is really hard if you can't know really what the other person is like and what s/he's doing. I'm currently in a long-distance relationship and I don't enjoy it one shit, but I know that we'll be together in the end, in spring the latest. If I knew there was a good chance that we'd never end up living in the same city, I would have broken it off or insisted on going with him.

For some, the gap is completley unnoticable, and the relationship can work because you feel that closeness no matter how far you are away.

In another instance, it can be quiet hurtful and be the only (negative) thought taking over who you are.You just made two very key points to both sides of this "debate", and like has been said, not all relationships are the same, and no one person can judge a relationship except the two persons involved. Those who have been involved in more serious type relationships online, will usually agree that it is atleast worth pursuing where it may take you.

I also don't believe it's something that people should seek out over the net, as beggers are rarely good choosers.

It depends on gas prices. Guessing on the distance factor.Actually, one destination is no different from the other. Sure being in the same country helps, but it helps even more if the other person hates their country. ;P

it's not over until you both scream "I hate you! I never want to see/hear from you again!" Damn, does that really end a relationship? I always thought that was the best part. :D

I always thought that was the best part. :D
Damn you normal couples and your amazing post-fight make-up sex!

Quick, I need a reason to argue with my boyfriend! :p

Damn you normal couples and your amazing post-fight make-up sex!

Quick, I need a reason to argue with my boyfriend! :p
I never really understood the whole make-up sex thing. The boyfriends I've fought with usually just left and there's no make-up to have sex about. Am I missing out on something?

I just really hate to fight. Haven't really fought with my current bf in a year and a half.

Damn you normal couples and your amazing post-fight make-up sex!

Quick, I need a reason to argue with my boyfriend! :pIt's easy, just do like I do.. complain about things that don't even bother you, whine lots, and occasionally start crying for no apparent reason.

Oh wait, that's how I usually lose my boyfriends.. nevermind. ;P

online is just another way of 'talking' so you can learn bout each other but i would suggest that it be casual at best

I believe online relationships are worth it.
For the same reason that a physicall one is.

There's no difference, in my point view, for I believe that the distance that some people that said it's not worth it named, the real distance is made by people, even if you live together.

Nothing is impossible. So, I truly believe that distance isn't something unbearable. If both parts are willing, it could be difficult, yet never impossible.

The person on the other computer is Real. I am real this side of the computer, too. Feelings that are played are real. And I'd not believe it, until it happened to me.

Also, people lie about their ages online. My friend, who is 17, recently met this guy she'd been talking to online for about seven months. He had told her he was 19, within our state's statutory tolerance, but it turns out he was 53. Obviously, this was not a workable relationship for her, and definitely not worth it.


This you said is right. It's obvious that a relationship that is based on a LIE isn't worth it. As a physicall one based on a lie isn't either.
Plus, I believe that is really hard to really know a person, even if you live near, and you know each other physically.


So I would say online relationships are more than worth it. Is a relationship as any other. And, you can certainly love a person that lives miles away from you.

i think they can be worth it, its just really hard for it to work.
obviously, you have to be incredibly more honest than a normal relationship seeing as there is usually not expressions to go off of like normal relationships.

people also think im vain for this, but you gotta know what the person looks like for two reasons. One, whether we like it or not physicality is part of a person's attractiveness. Two, you gotta know that the 25 yr old woman is not a 52 yr old man.

online relationships have one advantage over normal relationships. People are alot more open it seems online than off.

but I say that online relationships can only work for so long. People need that connection that they can only get when a person is there. So long as you plan on meeting this person in time, then they can work.

they can work if the distance isn't that great.
it's important to always keep complete honesty between the individuals. lets face it..you can never really know if someones a complete shit faced liar through a telephone, now can ya?
in my experience, no, they don't work. but i have friends who have been lucky..so id say you have like a 95% chance of failure or something.
but why bother with the net when you can just go to dating services? lmfao yeah right.
m

they can work if the distance isn't that great.
it's important to always keep complete honesty between the individuals. lets face it..you can never really know if someones a complete shit faced liar through a telephone, now can ya?
in my experience, no, they don't work. but i have friends who have been lucky..so id say you have like a 95% chance of failure or something.
but why bother with the net when you can just go to dating services? lmfao yeah right.
m
online relationships work. me and miranda are getting married tomorrow, in honor of b00bleBot's birthday.
we are that 5%.
unless that shit faced liar jab was at me. in which case, a certain someone is going to be jilted at the altar tomorrow.
*ponders*

lmao, even if me and omi dont get married, i can just get back on the net and find an exact replica of omi...cuz i mean, lets face it..mal is just another omi, right? (but in a good way, ofcourse)
seriously...why repeat a long distance thing when you know they dont work? not even long distance..but online..because you dont know the person. you've never met them in person (again, extreme distance) unless one or both makes that effort. if you can't wait a year for one, why can you suddenly wait a year for another? hmm, the questions.
if i didn't have omi...i would die. like, whoa. cuz..without omi..what's the point?

they can work if the distance isn't that great.
it's important to always keep complete honesty between the individuals. lets face it..you can never really know if someones a complete shit faced liar through a telephone, now can ya?
in my experience, no, they don't work. but i have friends who have been lucky..so id say you have like a 95% chance of failure or something.
but why bother with the net when you can just go to dating services? lmfao yeah right.
m

5 % of success? :confused:

I already said, online relationships IS NOT impossible to afford but you are too optimistic anyhow.

im to optimistic? care to explain? i dont get it :/
and it's not about money in any case...never said that.

lmao, even if me and omi dont get married, i can just get back on the net and find an exact replica of omi...cuz i mean, lets face it..mal is just another omi, right? (but in a good way, ofcourse)
seriously...why repeat a long distance thing when you know they dont work? not even long distance..but online..because you dont know the person. you've never met them in person (again, extreme distance) unless one or both makes that effort. if you can't wait a year for one, why can you suddenly wait a year for another? hmm, the questions.
if i didn't have omi...i would die. like, whoa. cuz..without omi..what's the point?
i am the meaning of life. or at least, marrying me is.
5 % of success? :confused:

I already said, online relationships IS NOT impossible to afford but you are too optimistic anyhow.
fine. i guess i won't be dating gil online...

ohhh..gil nm..i get it. lol. im all stupid cuz my mind is on omi ass.

im to optimistic? care to explain? i dont get it :/
and it's not about money in any case...never said that.

5 % of success is a very huge number of people, not real.


i am the meaning of life. or at least, marrying me is.

fine. i guess i won't be dating gil online...

You would be impressed of what I can really do.

Well, I did... and get married, and have a nice daughter today. ;)

What did happen later is bad luck, I think.

ohhh..gil nm..i get it. lol. im all stupid cuz my mind is on omi ass.
that's cause my milkshake brings all the mirs to the yard
and they're like
*stares at omiass*

lik omg its trrrrruuuuuuu