Ok, heres the story:

I have this friend at school. The problem is, he's not my friend. He thinks I like him, but he really, really gets on my nerves. I consider myself a nice person, so I tried to talk to him, and try to find things in common, but nothing seems to work, he's just not the kind of person I can get along with... To make matters worse, he's kind of a loner at school, and I know that I'm one of his only friends. I know this sounds like a sort of selfish, mean-hearted post, but I just don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated.

It has to be hard. I remember being in school and having a friend like that. I bit my lip and just continued the friendship (if you could of called it that). There are ways just to be civil with people. Are you just in school with him or Do you socialize out of school too?

I actually did go through the same sort of problem when I was at school. The girl I'm talking about used to go around most of my class and year of school telling everyone that I was her best friend. This girl used to really irritate me and I used to be able to stand to be with her for so long and after at least half an hour she would do my nut in :p I tried to be nice to her but the more I did that the more she thought I was her friend which basically made the matter worse.

In the end I did actually tell her truthfully what I thought about her and that I didnt want her as a friend. She thanked me for my honesty and after that day she talked to me still but not as much as she used to.

Maybe you should try talking to this "friend" of yours and explaining to him that you are both 2 completely different people and you dont have many things in common. He might appreciate your honesty as in my experience it worked. :)

I hope everything goes okay for you whatever step you decide to take.

My advice would be to just let him down. Tell him that you aren't interested in him that way. I guess you can leave the option of friends out there for him, you never know what might happen in the future. Maybe you can be good friends.

I have a friend who has the same problem. She has this kid who is following her around like a puppy who was lost. On Valentine's day, he gave her flowers. She is nice and all, but she told him that she was not interested. (Nobody is really interested in Arnie. His ego is way toooooo big for someone with no social life.) He backed away after a while.

I think that you should just be as civil as possible. Since he has no friends he probably needs a friend. I know what it's like to be a loner and it's not fun at all. Try and make conversations with him. Try and relate to what he says about school and other general stuff. The right thing to do is just continue the friendship. You never know he could change.

I used to have the same problem as you. This guy used to follow me everywhere, stalk me when I was online and everything and it really did my nut in! I confronted the matter and was truthful and we agreed to limits and all that jazz. Anyhoo, I started making the effort to talk to him just to see if I could relate to him, and now he is one of my best friends. It's very ironic but honesty does help :)

Well, if hes a mean person, then...
"Be kind to unkind people. They probably need it the most."

It -is- possible to be friends and have little in common...um, its obvious you wouldnt consider dating him but... being friends never hurts. No reason, it seems, to turn anyone down from that. I mean- if he starts doin kinda shady stuff (stalking, obsession, extreme infatuation, etc)... you may hafta cut him off.

But the way you make it sound- just seems like hes not the person you'd be -really- good friends with- but no reason not to be just a random casual friend (or if you prefer: acquaintance.)

I actually did go through the same sort of problem when I was at school. The girl I'm talking about used to go around most of my class and year of school telling everyone that I was her best friend.

I went through that too. This girl was the type that no one liked because she was annoying. She never shut up, and would hang all over you. She would go around saying that she was my best friend. She'd do it to other people too. But I finally had it... she came over to my lunch table once and said something. When I disagreed, she punched me in the arm. I finally told my dad and he told me to tell her that if she didn't stop talking to me or anything else that my dad would call the police and press charges. So I told her the threat. She finally left me alone.

Not all cases need to go to that extreme. But you would have to have known this girl. It was needed. So I'm not saying that that is what you should do. But know that it is not in anyway a selfish problem. You are justified to feeling this way.

Everybody'sFool,
Christy

Ok, it was probably my crummy English, but I need to get something across. I am also a male :P . He doesn't want to date me (As far as I can tell), And if he did, well, I'm not that sort of person.... Hope that clarifies some things :P

I had the same kinda problem when I was your age. I think it's just something everyone goes through. I used to hang out with a girl at school who was 'really unpopular' should I put it. Though I remember thinking that you shouldnt just make choices on who you should hang out with just because of other peoples opinions on that person. I agree, I felt like you do when I would hang out with her though it's about what's on the inside with the person not how others make them out to be.

....If that made any sense.
I praise the people who don't give a crap on how there judged.

I had the same kinda problem when I was your age. I think it's just something everyone goes through. I used to hang out with a girl at school who was 'really unpopular' should I put it. Though I remember thinking that you shouldnt just make choices on who you should hang out with just because of other peoples opinions on that person. I agree, I felt like you do when I would hang out with her though it's about what's on the inside with the person not how others make them out to be.

....If that made any sense.
I praise the people who don't give a crap on how there judged.

I HAVE tried to talk to him and find any similarities we have, etc. but there are none! We're just two very different people.

Well i think you should be honest towards him, now he might be thinking that you also like him, wich clearly isn't. so he might get more upset when he finds out later on.

but that's just my opinion. :)

Well i think you should be honest towards him, now he might be thinking that you also like him, wich clearly isn't. so he might get more upset when he finds out later on.

but that's just my opinion. :)

I don't think I could live with myself if I did this to him. As far as I know I'm pretty much his only friend. It seems to me that the only thing I can do is bite my tongue and live with it. Only got 1 1/2 Years of school left anyway :P