In January I met this really awesome person online, through a friend / dating type of site. It seemed like pure fate. I was looking at a picture of their beautiful smile and gorgeous eyes and got over my initial anxiety and sent them a note. Oddly enough they were looking at my picture too and reviewing my profile when they received the message from me. In a matter of seconds I had gotten a response and a friendship was underway.

I shared a lot of intimate information with this person, and they returned with just as many details about themseves, as well as a matched enthusiams for life and our new relationship. I had never met someone who I instantly connected with on so many levels. I tried to stay level headed and not get too emotionally wrapped up because I had never physically met or spoken to this person so there was always a chance that it was not what it seemed to be.

Our friendship carried on strong for a solid couple of months. I began to believe whole-heartedly in this person because of so many different things that need not be mentioned. After all, I was who I represented myself to be, so why couldn't this person be who they were.

Before I knew it I felt like I was falling in love. I live in the USA and this person was all the way in Canada. Yet day after day, night after night I rushd to my computer waiting for their replies to my messages. Then one day there weren't any messages.

A month went by without ever hearing a thing from my new friend, who I had deeply connected with by this point. They had been seriously ill for a short time during the first couple months of our friendship and I could not help but think the worst.

I kept on sending messages, knowing in my heart that there was nothing that I did to cause a break in our communication. I had just about given up after a month of silence when I finally received an email. My friend had been tricked by an internet culprit who pretended to be me and got a lot of personal info about them. Evidently they had managed to obtain their email password and played a cruel game.

So here I sat for what felt like an eternity, lonely and full of worry, while my friend was being preyed on. But in that email came hope for the return of our relationship. We again began to communicate non-stop. Everything seemed as it was before and I knew in my heart that this person was everything they said they were.

In the midst of our renewed rendevous online, they had told me that this other person from the internet had been harassing them. Evidently they got their address and were mailing things and calling and continuing to email. My friend said they had to move and the very last thing they wrote me said: "it might not seem like it as of late, but even if I don't talk to you on the phone, or over the net, you are always with me".

It's been almost 2 months since that last email. My friend moved and I know they don't have a computer to email or chat with me. And their friend (who's email address I had gotten when they were ill) let me know that was in fact true. I asked their friend if they would let them know I still wanted to stay in touch. They said they would.

Now for the delimma... What would you do...?

I got an email today from their friend, giving me a phone number to try. I have never spoken to my friend on the phone before. I gave their friend my phone number so they could call me. Keeping this in mind, and the fact that my friend was being harassed by a stranger and forced to move...would you call? My heart screams yes but my head says no. I am so confused...

I have been in such heartache. I have broken down in tears from missing this person in my life. I will probably always regret it if I don't call but I would be devistated if this person were to be unhappy with hearing from me for some reason. I fell in love with this person and to leave it this way without calling is less hurtful then a broken heart. Except that my heart is already breaking because of their loss...

What would you do...???

Gosh thats a bit of a situation! I don't know if you will value my opinion, because im a noob and ive never spoken to you before, but this is what i think...

well, you are evidently really really into this woman which is the number one reason why you shouldnt let her go! Also, that person who was harrassing her obtained her number unwanted from somewhere, whereas she gave you her number so she obvisouly wants you to call her. After having such a connection with someone, i don't think you should give up that easily, go on and give her a call!

Don't get so worked up about it. Just call. Call once and hope they are home. If not, leave a message, with your number, and wait for a return phone call. if after 2 weeks, nothing, then try one more time. If you still get no response, then forget it.

he would not have given you his number if he didn't want you to call. perhaps he is waiting for you to call now that he knows you have his number. The worse that could happen is you will call, he will say he doesn't want to talk to you, and you will never talk again. It's not much worse than what is happening now.

No use spending the rest of your life wondering "what if". just pick up the phone and call. You 2 could start writing letters to eachother and such.

good luck, hon. Don't get so stressed. Don't spend the rest of your life wondering. Just pick up the phone and call.

I got an email today from their friend, giving me a phone number to try. I have never spoken to my friend on the phone before. I gave their friend my phone number so they could call me. Keeping this in mind, and the fact that my friend was being harassed by a stranger and forced to move...would you call? My heart screams yes but my head says no. I am so confused...

I have been in such heartache. I have broken down in tears from missing this person in my life. I will probably always regret it if I don't call but I would be devistated if this person were to be unhappy with hearing from me for some reason. I fell in love with this person and to leave it this way without calling is less hurtful then a broken heart. Except that my heart is already breaking because of their loss...

What would you do...???

I say go for it. Even though you've never met this person, they obviously make you very happy. Like you said you may regret it if you don't seize the opportunity. Remember you did nothing wrong to him, it was a malicious stranger and I'm sure he sees it that way too. However, as with all online relationships, I'll advise you to also be careful.

Call him. Definitely. Life is WAY too short to miss opportunities like this, seriously, you never know what might happen tomorrow. If you don't make this one call then you will always be wondering what would have/could have happened. What's the worst that could happen? Good luck.

People always say go with your heart, and i think this is one of them.
Call him, see what happens, I think he would be happy to hear from you. Once you get talking to each other, he will realise it is really you, if he doesn't already believe it is you, and you will then find your friendship back and maybe it may bring your relationship closer and to a new leavel.

Seriously if you sit there and just wonder, you will drive yourself insane. i know how nerve racking it must be to call some one in this situation, i have trouble calling my best friend :p but once you get it over and done with you will feel better and your confusion will subside ;)

Good luck, and let us know what you decide, and how it works out.
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Definately call this person. I have a similar situation as you, being in the USA and talking to someone on the other side of the continent in Canada, a person whom I also love most dearly. And I can tell you, talking with that person on the phone is an awesome, awesome thing when we have the chance.

So I say go for it. Besides, I think it's probably most likely that this person told their friend to give you his/her number, which means they still want to talk to you, but take the next step and do it on the phone.

And good luck!

I also say call them. You dont want to wait too long, because you dont want to grow further apart from this person. And you dont want to live the rest of your life in regret, wondering what could have happened and constantly saying "Oh, I wish I'd...".


Go for it. :)

~heather~

Thank you all so much for your replies! I went ahead and made the call and got an answering machine. :( But I am going to try again over the weekend. :) Sometimes I let my nerves and anxiety get the better of me...