This is what I get for speedreading, I read an "a" as a "my"

Regardless, the remainder of my comments still stand, just with a slightly more abstracted individual

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"'Love' is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy. " -- R. A. Heinlein

I think you have a far better chance of finding a man who really loves you with that attitude. Not that i mind ether way if people sleep together before marriage or not, but if you don't, you can be sure that he loves you for you, and not just for a hot piece of ass. Chances are though , you may have to weed through a few fuckwits first !!!!!!

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Kids say no to drugs!!!!!!! drugs are bad mmmmmmmmkay!!!!

My best friend is a woman. We hang out together all the time and I love her dearly, but we're not physical with each other. We're both very tactile, so there's a lot of hugging and stuff, but no sex. Or anything close to it.

What I'm getting at is that my best mate and I behave the same way that you (LuckyStar) seem to be looking for... but she's not my girlfriend.

I honestly believe that sex (and other assorted firkyfoodling) is the one thing you do with your significant other that you don't do with anyone else. If you're with someone that you don't have sex with, what you have is a really good friend. Nothing wrong with that, in fact there's everything right with that, but they aren't your partner.

Not in my humble, anyways.

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This all looks strangely familiar...

One thing to keep in mind when reading's Head post, he doesn't believe in marriage. Considering the OP was posting a sex before marriage question, Head's perspective is on a totally different wavelength.

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What upsets me is not that you lied to me, but that from now on I can no longer believe you. -Nietzsche

As a teen you shouldn't be having a sexual relationship if its not what you want.
In your 20's, 30's or older it can sometimes be deemed as odd that you aren't having sex with someone you think of as a romantic interest.Still it is ultimately a persons' choice if they choose not to have sex even if they are in love. A couple of my divorced friends waited almost 3 years before having sex again, even while dating. They had small children and did not want to give the kids a false sense that this guys is going to be here for the long haul. A good relationship doesn't always have to be about sex if the one not getting any is understanding enough.They had fun together without it being all about doing the deed. Rare in this day and age but certainly something she should be damn proud of.

I really hope you stick to your guns on this one. I can't tell you how many girls I know who said they would wait for marriage or an engagement but then slept with the first dude who said I love you. It happens. Circumstances occur that can completely change our ideas as well.

If a guy really cares about you he will respect your decision to wait until you are ready. There are alot of unwanted consequences of pre-marital sex besides just pregnancy and disease. The emotional reprecussions are huge.
If you feel pressured by someone and then give in, in the end you will feel horrible about yourself. Alot of times this is what leads to promiscuity in a girl that had before been relatively sure she wasn't going that route. I've seen it alot.

The majority of my friends even in their 30's say their first time was pressured, and afterwards they felt cheap and basically used. Like they had totally let themselves down. Once they did it wasn't a sacred thing anymore so who cared if they slept around.

Wanting a boyfriend at your age should not automatically mean you are going to end up having sex. Just because everyone else is doing it sure as hell doesn't mean you have to. You be true to you, That is what matters in the end,hon.

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Since the government gets to use imaginary money to cover its ass, how come I can't use Monopoly money to pay my mortgage?

Diamon, as ever, speaks the truth.

I hadn't even considered the marriage thing... I was just commenting on the original question, which was "is it possible to have a successful relationship without sex". Maybe I should've read between the lines.

Looking at it purely from a 'no sex till the honeymoon' point of view, the answer to the question becomes obvious. It's clearly YES, you can. Proven by the fact that shedloads of people abstain from The Humping until they're wedded. If you couldn't have a successful relationship without bumping uglies, none of these couples would ever hav made it up the aisle. QED.



Still don't think it's a good idea, but meh. That's just me.

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This all looks strangely familiar...

you should totally tap that, dude.

Oh, I know. Thanks guys.

now i just need to FIND a boyfriend. kdajfioesufioerfje.

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Poor LuckyStar... sounds like your desperate for some lovin' You'll find a guy EVENTUALLY, lol.

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United States of America, looks like another silent night
As we're sung to sleep by philosophies that save the trees and kill the children

But You called me beautiful when you saw my shame
And You placed me on the wall...anyway...