The Weekly I-Don't-Know-How-to-Feel-About-This Thread - Page 4 - EvBoard

Sweet Tigger · 06-14-2008, 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Jane

Well, you should feel sad and pray that he turns around. It's really all you can do at that point.

Oh believe me, I'm in tears for him almost on a daily basis.
And even worse, he tries to call me, and I don't, and can't answer his calls.
That breaks my heart, especially knowing exactly how he feels right now.
And thinking that no one cares, and will be there for him.
He feels so alone, and I hated the fact I had to turn my back on him.
But I just can't help him, and I can't have him become depended on me.
He's not ready obviously, but I don't know if he'll ever be.
This does scare the shit out of me, I don't want him being the next
person to die, because of drug use.

Jane · 06-14-2008, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet Tigger

And even worse, he tries to call me, and I don't, and can't answer his calls.

That's what triggers addicts to turn their act around. When one by one all of his closest friends and family tell him that they can't be around him until he commits to getting sober and staying that way, then he'll eventually do it, or his lifestyle will catch up to him. Hopefully he decides to get clean sooner rather than later though.

music box · 06-15-2008, 11:28 PM

I don't know what to do about college...and my job...and getting a car...and my license...and the things i need...and insurance for my car...

I don't know how to feel anymore about the dreams that keep me awake at night. PS2 here I come I guess.

Jane · 06-17-2008, 01:55 PM

Just deal with one thing at a time. Otherwise you'll get overwhelmed by the bigger picture.

Julieann · 06-24-2008, 11:09 PM

So. Last night I bought my son several pairs of big-boy underwear, and he's worn them all day today, except for naptime and bedtime (we're still using GoodNites for sleeping). I'm so proud of him, and he's proud of himself, but it's still like a kick in the gut to see him running around in these teeny little boxer-briefs...I've been having teary-eyed Mommy moments all day.

Sweet Tigger · 06-24-2008, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Julieann

So. Last night I bought my son several pairs of big-boy underwear, and he's worn them all day today, except for naptime and bedtime (we're still using GoodNites for sleeping). I'm so proud of him, and he's proud of himself, but it's still like a kick in the gut to see him running around in these teeny little boxer-briefs...I've been having teary-eyed Mommy moments all day.

Awww, thats so sweet Julie!
Now you have the joys, of watching your little boy grow up, and
do big boy stuff.
I would cry as well, especially if you didn't expect it so soon.
My friend is going through the exact same with her two year old
as well.
They grow so fast...as my friend says, and sometimes wishes they would just
stay a certin age.
But its exciting all at the same time, because its you they want to show
it all to.

Unknown_Soldier · 06-25-2008, 12:22 AM

so since i was in the first grade i've known this girl, she was/is one of my closest and most important friends and we went through alot as kids and( i think i've posted most of this story on a different thread (sorry i know i get repetitive but anyways) when i was 12 we moved away and we lost contact for about 3 years and in the summer of 2006 we got back in contact which was like a gift from god because i was searching for her on myspace (i dunno why) but by chance i found a page that bared her name but no picture so i took a chance and sent a message asking her if she was the long lost friend i had and she was! To reassure me she posted a few pictures and i recognized her instantly so we got to talking and we both admitted we had huge crushes on eachother our entire childhoods but we where and still are about a two hour drive apart, so anyway we started ending our texts with "I Love You" to eachother but we could never say it to eachother on the phone or anything like that but we lost contact again for most of a year and i tried to keep contact but we had no way to talk then finally again we got in contact again last march but in the year we had lost contact i got a gf who i have been with for over a year now and i still have some unresolved feelings toward my friend, but i don't let it interfere with my current relationship, so she is turning 18 in november and has promised to come see me once she can, so i dont know what i'm going to do by then i will have to come to some conclusion on these emotions.

so there it is..

Saphira · 06-25-2008, 01:13 PM

Right. My turn now. *clears throat*

When I was a senior in high school, my boyfriend and I were going through some rough times. He was in college and I had my own life and friends, I had moved to a new school. I ended up landing a lead role in the spring musical, and my costar was this completely ridiculous guy that I felt like strangling half the time. He was way too serious (unless he was in character) and every time I tried to joke with him about our awkward kissing scene, I was met with dead silence and a blank stare. He didn't seem too eager to be friends, so I ended up just ignoring him unless we were on the stage together. However, because I was having such awful trouble with my boyfriend (and you know how high school romances are...I mean, we'd been together for years, and still are together, but at times there are just way too many outside things interefering) I ended up, God knows why, developing a teensy crush on my costar. But the musical ended, and my boyfriend and I worked our issues out, and things went back to normal...or so I thought.

I found out much later that he was...well, crazy about me. And I felt really bad because even though I had thought his angsty moods were adorable and all, I would never ever ever in a million years date him. For one thing, I'd never leave my boyfriend. We're so great together, and every relationship has rough patches. I'm not going to lose a good thing (even if its at a bad time) for a side attraction to a random guy I barely know, and who drives me mad to boot. Secondly, I could never date him anyway because the angsty moods I thought were cute from the outside would drive me INSANE if I ever dated him. And when he sent his little brother to ask me if I liked him while we were on a trip together, and I denied it, he stopped talking to me.

Okay. Flash forward to the present date. This boy has acted like I don't exist for over a year. I wish we could be friends, I think, but I have no idea how to act around him. On top of that, he just never replied to any emails or anything I sent him, and I gave up about four or five months ago. I ended up deleting him from my facebook and myspace because I didn't want to deal with his angsty emo messages and his not-so-subtle hints that "SOMEONE" broke his heart and he was never going to be the same again. WE DIDN'T EVEN DATE. YOU BARELY KNOW ME.

So yeah. There's my rant. He's coming to my college next year, and I hate to admit it, but I'm going to spend half my time outside of my dorm ducking and avoiding him because at this point, I'm too chicken shit to even make eye contact. I have no idea how I feel about this. Part of me wants to be friends, but another part feels like he should just go away for good. Bah.

*sulk*

Julieann · 07-27-2008, 01:19 AM

Just.......people. Uhg. Untrustworthy people.

My friend Moses (the one who's in Iraq) has this friend who is insanely overprotective of him. Every time I have a conversation with her, she acts understanding and empathetic about whatever we're discussing...and then she goes to report it to Moses, putting a completely different spin on her opinion of the situation than what she told me. So basically, when she talks to me we're really cool and blah blah blah. But when she goes to talk to Moses about OUR discussion (something that is uncool anyway) she completely changes her story and makes me sound like such a c*nt.

I HATE PEOPLE WHO DO THIS. And I have no idea what to do here, except just stop having conversations with her.

06-15-2008, 11:28 PM	#33 (permalink)
music box diabeetus. Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Part time in Hell. Part time in your pants. Age: 19 Posts: 754 Points: 205,238.78 Bank: 2.60 Total Points: 205,241.37 Donate	I don't know what to do about college...and my job...and getting a car...and my license...and the things i need...and insurance for my car... I don't know how to feel anymore about the dreams that keep me awake at night. PS2 here I come I guess. __________________

06-17-2008, 01:55 PM	#34 (permalink)
Jane Crazy Circus Chick Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,786 Points: 622.40 Bank: 14,904.70 Total Points: 15,527.10 Donate	Just deal with one thing at a time. Otherwise you'll get overwhelmed by the bigger picture. __________________

06-24-2008, 11:09 PM	#35 (permalink)
Julieann Property of Satan Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Tulsa, OK Age: 21 Posts: 656 Points: 0.00 Bank: 474,165.89 Total Points: 474,165.89 Donate	So. Last night I bought my son several pairs of big-boy underwear, and he's worn them all day today, except for naptime and bedtime (we're still using GoodNites for sleeping). I'm so proud of him, and he's proud of himself, but it's still like a kick in the gut to see him running around in these teeny little boxer-briefs...I've been having teary-eyed Mommy moments all day. __________________

06-25-2008, 12:22 AM	#37 (permalink)
Unknown_Soldier Resident King of Emo Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: The Dark Eternal Night Posts: 356 Points: 2,328.99 Bank: 20,241.56 Total Points: 22,570.56 Donate	so since i was in the first grade i've known this girl, she was/is one of my closest and most important friends and we went through alot as kids and( i think i've posted most of this story on a different thread (sorry i know i get repetitive but anyways) when i was 12 we moved away and we lost contact for about 3 years and in the summer of 2006 we got back in contact which was like a gift from god because i was searching for her on myspace (i dunno why) but by chance i found a page that bared her name but no picture so i took a chance and sent a message asking her if she was the long lost friend i had and she was! To reassure me she posted a few pictures and i recognized her instantly so we got to talking and we both admitted we had huge crushes on eachother our entire childhoods but we where and still are about a two hour drive apart, so anyway we started ending our texts with "I Love You" to eachother but we could never say it to eachother on the phone or anything like that but we lost contact again for most of a year and i tried to keep contact but we had no way to talk then finally again we got in contact again last march but in the year we had lost contact i got a gf who i have been with for over a year now and i still have some unresolved feelings toward my friend, but i don't let it interfere with my current relationship, so she is turning 18 in november and has promised to come see me once she can, so i dont know what i'm going to do by then i will have to come to some conclusion on these emotions. so there it is.. __________________

06-25-2008, 01:13 PM	#38 (permalink)
Saphira Northern Star Join Date: May 2004 Location: Forks, WA Posts: 303 Points: 14,395.94 Bank: 1.55 Total Points: 14,397.49 Donate	Right. My turn now. clears throat When I was a senior in high school, my boyfriend and I were going through some rough times. He was in college and I had my own life and friends, I had moved to a new school. I ended up landing a lead role in the spring musical, and my costar was this completely ridiculous guy that I felt like strangling half the time. He was way too serious (unless he was in character) and every time I tried to joke with him about our awkward kissing scene, I was met with dead silence and a blank stare. He didn't seem too eager to be friends, so I ended up just ignoring him unless we were on the stage together. However, because I was having such awful trouble with my boyfriend (and you know how high school romances are...I mean, we'd been together for years, and still are together, but at times there are just way too many outside things interefering) I ended up, God knows why, developing a teensy crush on my costar. But the musical ended, and my boyfriend and I worked our issues out, and things went back to normal...or so I thought. I found out much later that he was...well, crazy about me. And I felt really bad because even though I had thought his angsty moods were adorable and all, I would never ever ever in a million years date him. For one thing, I'd never leave my boyfriend. We're so great together, and every relationship has rough patches. I'm not going to lose a good thing (even if its at a bad time) for a side attraction to a random guy I barely know, and who drives me mad to boot. Secondly, I could never date him anyway because the angsty moods I thought were cute from the outside would drive me INSANE if I ever dated him. And when he sent his little brother to ask me if I liked him while we were on a trip together, and I denied it, he stopped talking to me. Okay. Flash forward to the present date. This boy has acted like I don't exist for over a year. I wish we could be friends, I think, but I have no idea how to act around him. On top of that, he just never replied to any emails or anything I sent him, and I gave up about four or five months ago. I ended up deleting him from my facebook and myspace because I didn't want to deal with his angsty emo messages and his not-so-subtle hints that "SOMEONE" broke his heart and he was never going to be the same again. WE DIDN'T EVEN DATE. YOU BARELY KNOW ME. So yeah. There's my rant. He's coming to my college next year, and I hate to admit it, but I'm going to spend half my time outside of my dorm ducking and avoiding him because at this point, I'm too chicken shit to even make eye contact. I have no idea how I feel about this. Part of me wants to be friends, but another part feels like he should just go away for good. Bah. sulk __________________ I'll be your dream, I'll be your wish, I'll be your fantasy March 14,2005

07-27-2008, 01:19 AM	#39 (permalink)
Julieann Property of Satan Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Tulsa, OK Age: 21 Posts: 656 Points: 0.00 Bank: 474,165.89 Total Points: 474,165.89 Donate	Just.......people. Uhg. Untrustworthy people. My friend Moses (the one who's in Iraq) has this friend who is insanely overprotective of him. Every time I have a conversation with her, she acts understanding and empathetic about whatever we're discussing...and then she goes to report it to Moses, putting a completely different spin on her opinion of the situation than what she told me. So basically, when she talks to me we're really cool and blah blah blah. But when she goes to talk to Moses about OUR discussion (something that is uncool anyway) she completely changes her story and makes me sound like such a c*nt. I HATE PEOPLE WHO DO THIS. And I have no idea what to do here, except just stop having conversations with her. __________________

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