The Weekly I-Don't-Know-How-to-Feel-About-This Thread - EvBoard

Julieann · 05-19-2008, 05:16 PM

So. We have The Weekly Whine and The Weekly Cheese, which cover two completely different ends of the emotional spectrum. But what about those times when something happens and you are just at a loss, completely confused about how to feel? That's what this thread is for. As with a lot of my other threads, I'm not expecting it to be real popular, but I have something I'm absolutely befuddled about and couldn't figure out where to put it. So nyeah.

ANYWAY. About ten minutes ago, I got an email from a friend of mine who's currently deployed I-don't-know-where. I've told a couple of you about this--this is the guy who I got in an argument with about a week and a half before he shipped out, and haven't spoken to him since April 30th. Well, I got an email from him today talking about how it may just be best if we take a break from being friends...? I don't have any fucking clue what that means. I'm glad that I heard from him, which I take to mean that he's safe, but I'm confused about what he said, and it sort of sounds like he dumped me, except that we're not dating. (??)

Emotional turmoil FTFL.

Okay...now everyone else post their own confusion and WTF-ness...GO!

c_isforcookie · 05-20-2008, 12:23 AM

^ your situation sounds really confusing, haha. thats so strange.

well hmmm, i feel really close to a friend of mine. we text a lot...like a WHOLE lot, even now as im typing.. during the day in classes (the classes that we dont have together). and after school, and on weekends. we're in constant contact with each other. and she's always the one that begins the day with the first text. so im just confused as to whether she could like me or not. shes always telling me of the guys that she texts, and tells me of her feelings for them...and while watching a movie, she wanted me to sit by her, which i couldnt do because of the many people i would have to get by to sit next to her.
so thats my rant for the week, and sadly this is our last week of high school and i wont get to see any of my friends on a daily basis like it used to be.

... oh so confused here

Saphira · 05-20-2008, 07:58 AM

I have a friend who is confusing the hell out of me. I'm not quite sure how to respond to him occasionally. He's always talking about how he's in love with someone other than his girlfriend, and although he told me it was a mutual friend of ours, I don't really believe him. He acts really strange, and sometimes says things that kind of indicate he likes me? Its gotten really awkward lately, and I just don't know how to deal with him. For example, last night we were talking about his being in love with someone else, and out of nowhere he goes, "In another life, we'd be awesome." I said, "You mean, like another universe?" And so he went "Yeah" and I started talking about being a superhero, and when I asked him what he'd want for his powers, he said "Invisibility because I could do anything." (That's not creepy as it is!) Anyway, I said I'd want to read minds so I could know everything and not have to waste my time tracking down the bad guys like they do on SVU, and he told me, "I'd never want you reading my mind. I'm not ready to share some things with you yet." I wouldn't think that was weird (in fact, I thought nothing of it) until he said later, "You know, I wish more girls were like you. You're perfect, and you're beautiful."

What do you say to that? You have to understand, this friend of mine never compliments people. He's the kind of person that is really nice, but at the same time, sees the bad parts of life. Not that he complains about it, he just sees it and deals with it...sort of? Ugh. Anyway, I'm not at all interested (I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and am perfectly happy where i am) so I'm not quite sure how to deal with it.

Average-atheist-15 · 05-31-2008, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Julieann

So. We have The Weekly Whine and The Weekly Cheese, which cover two completely different ends of the emotional spectrum. But what about those times when something happens and you are just at a loss, completely confused about how to feel? That's what this thread is for. As with a lot of my other threads, I'm not expecting it to be real popular, but I have something I'm absolutely befuddled about and couldn't figure out where to put it. So nyeah.

ANYWAY. About ten minutes ago, I got an email from a friend of mine who's currently deployed I-don't-know-where. I've told a couple of you about this--this is the guy who I got in an argument with about a week and a half before he shipped out, and haven't spoken to him since April 30th. Well, I got an email from him today talking about how it may just be best if we take a break from being friends...? I don't have any fucking clue what that means. I'm glad that I heard from him, which I take to mean that he's safe, but I'm confused about what he said, and it sort of sounds like he dumped me, except that we're not dating. (??)

Emotional turmoil FTFL.

Okay...now everyone else post their own confusion and WTF-ness...GO!

it seems pretty clear that he hasent forgetten about the argument and obviously he feels you can no longer be friends. maybe its for other reasons. maybe he changed. maybe he thinks you did. idk. i've lost alot of friends for no aparent reason. only they just stopped replying to my messages and eventualy i got the hint. anyway. yeah i have those. dont know how to feel moments alot realy. mainly because i dont fully understand emotion. i dont comprahend emotion like most do. my thinking is nine times out of ten completly logical and emotion is somthing that i distance myself from. logic and common sense are. well logical and they make sense. emotions are confusing and in-depth. and i make things as simple as possible. but im not a robot and i do from time to time feel emotions. i dont realy have one specific thing that has made me emotionaly confused. emotions themselves are enough to confuse me so. idk what do you guys make of that?

Jane · 05-31-2008, 11:49 AM

Sounds like there is a lot of miscommunication going on between friends so far. I guess talking to each other about the problems in your friendship is too overrated; why get to the bottom of things when you can just be confused and stay friendless?

Personally, I'd at least want closure and want to know WHY someone decided to cut me out of his/her life, but apparently that's silly.

TearsofShadows · 05-31-2008, 12:01 PM

Had a few issues with a friend of mine about a month ago over the dumbest crap ever. He got pissed off just because one of my friends called him on my cell phone to relay a message i had for him. I was doing the Day of Silence....and he knew that, but he still called my cell phone.

We're ok now, but he gets annoyed at the most insignicant crap, and he thinks he's always right.

Fool.

Selfish&Cold · 05-31-2008, 08:10 PM

I don't understand why my dog is constantly trying to make sweet love to my forearm after I rough house with it....

Its a Min Pin.

Julieann · 06-02-2008, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Jane

Sounds like there is a lot of miscommunication going on between friends so far. I guess talking to each other about the problems in your friendship is too overrated; why get to the bottom of things when you can just be confused and stay friendless?

Personally, I'd at least want closure and want to know WHY someone decided to cut me out of his/her life, but apparently that's silly.

Sometimes it's a little difficult to GET closure and find out why someone's cut you out of their life, especially when they've decided to give you the silent treatment for weeks on end. If you can't physically go and hunt the person down and FORCE them to acknowledge you, the only real options left are email and the phone.

Wanting closure and actually getting it are two different concepts that are sometimes miles apart.

Jane · 06-02-2008, 04:09 PM

Obviously if someone refuses to answer you when you go, "I dun get u, why are you ignoring me?" then yeah, you're kind of SOL. But I just got the impression from the posts that no one actually took the steps to be all, "Yo, why're you cuttin' me off, bro?!" Perhaps it was the wrong impression, if so, my bad.

Dad2leia · 06-03-2008, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Julieann

Wanting closure and actually getting it are two different concepts that are sometimes miles apart.

Truer words haven't been spoken, and sometimes, like stated before by others, it is usually based on the most insignificant shit imaginable that make the event happen in the first place.

I have a few stories like this Julie too, that end with not all that much closure, and a boatload of wondering what the hell I did wrong to cause it in the first place. The best advice I can give is to keep trying, at least for a little bit anyway, and if he still doesn't response, or give you any incling as to what happened, then unfortunately, that is going to be the most closure that you're going to get.

It sucks, it hurts, but at least you know that it's over.

05-19-2008, 05:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
Julieann Property of Satan Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Tulsa, OK Age: 21 Posts: 686 Points: 122.84 Bank: 649,766.94 Total Points: 649,889.78 Donate	The Weekly I-Don't-Know-How-to-Feel-About-This Thread So. We have The Weekly Whine and The Weekly Cheese, which cover two completely different ends of the emotional spectrum. But what about those times when something happens and you are just at a loss, completely confused about how to feel? That's what this thread is for. As with a lot of my other threads, I'm not expecting it to be real popular, but I have something I'm absolutely befuddled about and couldn't figure out where to put it. So nyeah. ANYWAY. About ten minutes ago, I got an email from a friend of mine who's currently deployed I-don't-know-where. I've told a couple of you about this--this is the guy who I got in an argument with about a week and a half before he shipped out, and haven't spoken to him since April 30th. Well, I got an email from him today talking about how it may just be best if we take a break from being friends...? I don't have any fucking clue what that means. I'm glad that I heard from him, which I take to mean that he's safe, but I'm confused about what he said, and it sort of sounds like he dumped me, except that we're not dating. (??) Emotional turmoil FTFL. Okay...now everyone else post their own confusion and WTF-ness...GO! __________________

05-20-2008, 12:23 AM	#2 (permalink)
c_isforcookie Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Mexico, the New one. Age: 18 Posts: 460 Points: 259.12 Bank: 13,421.62 Total Points: 13,680.74 Donate	^ your situation sounds really confusing, haha. thats so strange. well hmmm, i feel really close to a friend of mine. we text a lot...like a WHOLE lot, even now as im typing.. during the day in classes (the classes that we dont have together). and after school, and on weekends. we're in constant contact with each other. and she's always the one that begins the day with the first text. so im just confused as to whether she could like me or not. shes always telling me of the guys that she texts, and tells me of her feelings for them...and while watching a movie, she wanted me to sit by her, which i couldnt do because of the many people i would have to get by to sit next to her. so thats my rant for the week, and sadly this is our last week of high school and i wont get to see any of my friends on a daily basis like it used to be. ... oh so confused here __________________ Listening to music for an hour or two every evening doesn't deprive me of the silence-the music is the silence coming true.

05-20-2008, 07:58 AM	#3 (permalink)
Saphira Northern Star Join Date: May 2004 Location: Forks, WA Posts: 316 Points: 16,262.96 Bank: 2.09 Total Points: 16,265.05 Donate	I have a friend who is confusing the hell out of me. I'm not quite sure how to respond to him occasionally. He's always talking about how he's in love with someone other than his girlfriend, and although he told me it was a mutual friend of ours, I don't really believe him. He acts really strange, and sometimes says things that kind of indicate he likes me? Its gotten really awkward lately, and I just don't know how to deal with him. For example, last night we were talking about his being in love with someone else, and out of nowhere he goes, "In another life, we'd be awesome." I said, "You mean, like another universe?" And so he went "Yeah" and I started talking about being a superhero, and when I asked him what he'd want for his powers, he said "Invisibility because I could do anything." (That's not creepy as it is!) Anyway, I said I'd want to read minds so I could know everything and not have to waste my time tracking down the bad guys like they do on SVU, and he told me, "I'd never want you reading my mind. I'm not ready to share some things with you yet." I wouldn't think that was weird (in fact, I thought nothing of it) until he said later, "You know, I wish more girls were like you. You're perfect, and you're beautiful." What do you say to that? You have to understand, this friend of mine never compliments people. He's the kind of person that is really nice, but at the same time, sees the bad parts of life. Not that he complains about it, he just sees it and deals with it...sort of? Ugh. Anyway, I'm not at all interested (I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and am perfectly happy where i am) so I'm not quite sure how to deal with it. __________________ I'll be your dream, I'll be your wish, I'll be your fantasy March 14,2005

05-31-2008, 11:49 AM	#5 (permalink)
Jane Little Miss Sunshine Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 3,069 Points: 8.35 Bank: 236,049.84 Total Points: 236,058.19 Donate	Sounds like there is a lot of miscommunication going on between friends so far. I guess talking to each other about the problems in your friendship is too overrated; why get to the bottom of things when you can just be confused and stay friendless? Personally, I'd at least want closure and want to know WHY someone decided to cut me out of his/her life, but apparently that's silly. __________________

05-31-2008, 08:10 PM	#7 (permalink)
Selfish&Cold Does not behave. Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: In a pineapple under the sea! Age: 24 Posts: 886 Points: 1,073.59 Bank: 23,892.96 Total Points: 24,966.56 Donate	I don't understand why my dog is constantly trying to make sweet love to my forearm after I rough house with it.... Its a Min Pin. __________________ I took you home Set you on the glass I pulled off your wings Then I laughed.

06-02-2008, 04:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
Jane Little Miss Sunshine Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ohio Age: 21 Posts: 3,069 Points: 8.35 Bank: 236,049.84 Total Points: 236,058.19 Donate	Obviously if someone refuses to answer you when you go, "I dun get u, why are you ignoring me?" then yeah, you're kind of SOL. But I just got the impression from the posts that no one actually took the steps to be all, "Yo, why're you cuttin' me off, bro?!" Perhaps it was the wrong impression, if so, my bad. __________________