my first bf broke up with me to my away message. wtf is that?

i was asleep i think because it was late and he was just like - i dont think we should date anymore. bye.

idiot. i wasnt devestated or anything, just pissed he would be such a pussy about it.

phones *ahg i hate the phone* a phone call would be the worst e-v-e-r

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I guess it's time for me to tell the Matt story. This will make me feel better about the whole thing right?

So me and this guy had a "thing" all first semester last year. He was my first official bf and my first kiss, and I liked him more than I've ever liked anyone. I opened up to him in a way I had never opened up to anyone before, b/c I'm used to guys trying to use me.

He seemed into me, but he broke it off b/c he said he didn't know me well enough, and we should probably just be friends first. I was okay with that, even though it kinda hurt. I was having a rough time emotionally during that period b/c of other things, and he asked me about it, and I told him things I usually keep that to myself, and he said "you don't need a boyfriend right now - you need a good friend, and I can be that for you." I really thought he meant it, so I let my guard down and decided to trust him.

Next friday night, he walked me home and was flirting with me shamelessly. We started making out and having fun and stuff, and a few hours later he said he wanted to go out with me again sometime.

The next week was finals week, and I was studying hard and assumed he was too, so I didn't have any contact with him for a few days. On wednesday my roommate was going to hang out at his place, and I decided to come with. Before we left though, she said to me "lauren... I just think you should know, he's been spending a lot of time with this other girl."

I got there, and she was there - this new girl, Jessica. Matt avoided me the whole time. I asked him how he'd been, and he said that he was good but he was too busy to see me anytime soon. (I hadn't even mentioned seeing him again...) He went in his room for long periods and practically hid from me, and every once in a while Jessica would disapear into there too. I commented to one of his roommates about how their futon seemed to be more broken every time I visited, and he said that it wasn't his fault, that it was because of what Matt and Jessica have been doing on there.

This was only 5 days after Matt had said he wanted to get back together with me, so I was incredibly hurt and confused. I tried to call him the next day, but he wasn't answering. I went to a study session, but could barely concentrate b/c not knowing what was really going on bothered me so much. It started raining, and after the session I was closer to his place than to my room. I decided that since I would get soaked anyway, I should pay him a visit before heading home.

I knew he was studying calc, so I didnt' want to distract him too much. Even I'm surprised how nice, calm, and polite I was. I just asked him what happened, and he said he had met jessica, and really liked her, and "went with that." What was most disturbing is that he said he met her on thurs, and he made up with me on fri.

About a month later while I was at home, he IMed me and said he was sorry. His excuse was "he didn't know how to tell me." He said friday happened b/c he was lonely being the only single guy in his apartment.

What bothers me still isn't that he found someone else, or that he doesn't like me, or any of that. It was that he knew how much I was hurting already, said he'd be there as a good friend for me, and then lead me on and pretty much cheated.

I hate it when people break up with their bf/gf through another person...that never happened to me, but it happened to my best friend, and she just happened to be CRAZY about this guy...so I found him and ripped him a new asshole But seriously, don't you even have the spine to tell them to their face that you want to break up? Not only is it cowardly, it shows you have no respect for the other person.

I think the worst is when you love the other person so much, and they love you so much in return. But for some reason, you are just so different that you cannot make it work. It's so much easier to break up when the other person does something bad to you so you can hate them in some way. It's easier when the other person cheats on you, or is an asshole. Because that way, you can pinpoint WHY it happened. But when you have to end it simply because all the love in the world isn't enough, that's the worst. You never get over that, and you spend the rest of your life wondering what happened and how to stop it from happening again.

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I dated a girl in college for almost 2 years. She'd stayed over at my place one night, and the next morning we were talking about how to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. The conversation degenerated into an argument about whether we could afford to go out somewhere nice or not. Then all this other drama got pulled in from other issues and old arguments, and it just got worse and worse. Finally she just got up, got dressed and said "I don't think we should see each other any more" and walked out. I remember sitting there on the bed totally confused and going "WTF just happened?!?!?!?!"

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Fickle people really suck.

Over AIM
Over the phone

Those two were the ones I had the worst with. I've had two girlfriends and one boyfriend. I dumped the boyfriend, had a mutual break-up with one of the girlfriends, and I was dumped by the previous girlfriend. I broke up with my boyfriend over AIM, which was my mistake and I am never planning on doing it ever again. I broke up with one of my girlfriends face-to-face in school, and we both agreed that it was a good idea.

Now, the one who broke up with me over the phone was someone I really loved, but after she did this thing over the phone, I realized that she was, in reality, extremely immature for an 18-year-old, and too immature for me. That, plus she went too slow for my taste. I did something to myself after she dumped me since I was at home at the time, but I am not going to disclose that information. It sucked.

No one should ever be broken up with over the phone or AIM, because it's not fair for that person. Unlike my ex-girlfriend, I actually realize that. What a dipshit anyways.

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my x husband was/is a complete psychopath. He threatened my daughter and I one night. The next morning, while he was at work. I pack her stuff and my stuff and moved. He came home and there was nothing left of either of us. He was served divorce papers 2 months later. I was not so nice, but he threatened my lil girl. And no one gets away with that.

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lol yeah. I had a boyfriend once and for a while he didn't even talk to me at all. Then I started seeing him in school and he always telling me "Get on AIM at [time]" and it went on like that till I finally cought him on it one night. He was like "Okay... I'm breaking up with you. I found someone else. Sorry." I asked him if he's been cheating on me and he had been. I wanted to ask him why he just didn't tell it to my face... but I realized he thought I'd kill him. Eventually his new lover broke up with him and he asked me back out. I told him I like being single.
But I didn't want to break his pussy heart by telling him when he didn't call me I was cheating on him too.
Moral of story. Talk to your gf/bf every now and then... or they'll cheat on you as well.

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Fuck you and your rules.
Smile for me.